tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post3776377030529554358..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: Wallop!Wisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-73881951718896254752015-08-03T22:18:09.023-02:302015-08-03T22:18:09.023-02:30I echo the comment of Linda above and send hugs to...I echo the comment of Linda above and send hugs to both you and your friend.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-41428538086266679352015-08-03T10:18:25.948-02:302015-08-03T10:18:25.948-02:30I thought again this morning about you and the tra...I thought again this morning about you and the trauma you're enduring, too, as you absorb some part of another friend's pain and fear. I hope there's something that provides respite and cheer to you, too, to help you through this time.Linda P.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-32201180308245611482015-08-01T18:45:40.395-02:302015-08-01T18:45:40.395-02:30My favorite is when a nurse told me, as I was in f...My favorite is when a nurse told me, as I was in full labor, to take a shower so as to "freshen up" for the doctor.Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297404386730167834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-37228864782502230382015-08-01T11:17:17.787-02:302015-08-01T11:17:17.787-02:30We Hindus, at least the older ones that is, say th...We Hindus, at least the older ones that is, say this short prayer every day as part of our daily morning rituals and whenever the idea arises in the mind.<br />"God, please grant me a death without hardship for me and those around me and a life without poverty" That is it. Nothing more nothing less from the higher power. If someone has to shovel us off the main street it will be that someone's problem, not mine.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-34751437978582724022015-07-31T12:30:15.046-02:302015-07-31T12:30:15.046-02:30When a person is in pain or fearful, is there any ...When a person is in pain or fearful, is there any failsafe thing to say? Sometimes I think not. One might get lucky and say the "right" thing to the "right" person at the "right" time, but there are situations where one's mere presence is an affront. Think of the position of the husband as the wife is in the throes of hard labour. He cannot win! He is hated! Sometimes even saying nothing is resented; the person suffering cannot help it. Everything is coloured by pain and fear. I've bent over backwards trying to say something comforting or helpful to a friend in distress and still been "wrong" so am no longer confident whatsoever. It seems like a crapshoot, to me!Blondi Blathershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15656970490122824720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-1022624881790941152015-07-31T09:21:10.618-02:302015-07-31T09:21:10.618-02:30It's certainly not an Irish thing. The English...It's certainly not an Irish thing. The English "stiff upper lip" and all that. I do agree, if we're in pain and distress, we should say so and demand help. What's the point of bottling it all up and pretending everything's fine? All that means is more unrelieved suffering. And yes, the casual advice to "be brave" is idiotic.<br /><br />Sorry to hear about the paralysis in your legs. I certainly won't give you any simplistic advice about that. I hope you can find out the cause.nickhttp://nickhereandnow.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-54701938032712536602015-07-30T11:48:56.317-02:302015-07-30T11:48:56.317-02:30I think that one of the worst things in life is se...I think that one of the worst things in life is seeing someone you love in the kind of pain that you describe, and you can't do one thing about it to make it hurt less. Actually, I think it is a heavy grief to me to know that any person is in terrible pain. Sometimes being brave does not help at all.<br />NancyNJhttp://kaymusings.orgnoreply@blogger.com