tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post3951867431057125192..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: UncertaintyWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-71197968516213315872014-05-23T12:06:51.044-02:302014-05-23T12:06:51.044-02:30Brene Brown's books are the answer.Brene Brown's books are the answer.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-55821925278035180232014-05-22T23:55:25.449-02:302014-05-22T23:55:25.449-02:30Friko:
Some appear to be really certain, maybe the...Friko:<br />Some appear to be really certain, maybe they're arrogant.<br />I like to think I'm not alone in my own thinking.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-42460862124539773992014-05-22T23:54:41.921-02:302014-05-22T23:54:41.921-02:30GM:
I'm pretty sharp that way myself, I'm ...GM:<br />I'm pretty sharp that way myself, I'm mainly thinking of those I formerly trusted.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-88031688007640316052014-05-22T18:55:23.626-02:302014-05-22T18:55:23.626-02:30'Are they uncertain too?'
What a question...'Are they uncertain too?'<br /><br />What a question. Is anyone certain? <br /><br />Those who are aren’t worth the flesh and blood they’re made of. That is, if it is indeed flesh and blood and not cardboard.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-63792504401308174592014-05-22T13:26:38.945-02:302014-05-22T13:26:38.945-02:30I give newcomers the benefit of the doubt, until t...I give newcomers the benefit of the doubt, until they prove me wrong. That said, I have a very strong 'gut' instinct about people and not often wrong.Grannymarhttp://grannymar.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-50091522755644029462014-05-22T13:00:44.961-02:302014-05-22T13:00:44.961-02:30Betty:
I believe something dies, I really do, cert...Betty:<br />I believe something dies, I really do, certainly trust and that indescribable quality that all children are born with, the simple joy of living and having a faith that they are loved for just who they are.<br />It wasn't long after this hospital stay that I was molested for the first time. One more breach of trust.<br />I am actually amazed all of us damaged wee people survived :)<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-31962867236803846742014-05-21T12:28:42.636-02:302014-05-21T12:28:42.636-02:30I have been sitting at my computer for a long time...I have been sitting at my computer for a long time after reading your Black Dog post and linking to your very sad time in hospital. I wonder exactly what happens to us during these painful episodes. Do pathways in our brains shiver and shake and/or curl up in little balls never to straighten up again? What is the connection to creativity? I was on Prozac for 5+years and there is no doubt it made the glass appear half full which in turn made life easier. At what cost? How does it work - does it actually straighten up those pathways? Permanently or temporarily? <br />When I was in my forties an older woman [younger than I am now - she was 76!] told me that old age was the time when you get to see how the pieces of the puzzle fit. She was right. I wonder if the day we die is the day the puzzle in completed? <br />By “the normal ones” I guess you mean the people who appear to be or are truly secure. I have met so few of them. I wonder if the rough road down the birth canal doesn’t leave us all insulted, damaged and afraid? Sorry this is so long.<br />Take care Wise.Betty Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10552340264000998419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-72902139636446358142014-05-21T11:30:51.899-02:302014-05-21T11:30:51.899-02:30Anita:
I think it was Winston Churchill who first...Anita:<br /><br />I think it was Winston Churchill who first coined the term, or at least used it to describe his own depressive outlook.<br /><br />Thanks for your perusal of my blog, throwing stuff out there I realize I am not alone.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-23279771661465471992014-05-21T11:29:16.070-02:302014-05-21T11:29:16.070-02:30Nick:
Yes, inevitable. It is isn't it? Someti...Nick:<br /><br />Yes, inevitable. It is isn't it? Sometimes I want to lean, just for a while, and I look around and there is nowhere to lean.<br /><br />Yes I have a good "gut" sense as well but sometimes it lets me down :(<br /><br />XO<br />WWW<br />Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-14948107891603918912014-05-21T11:10:23.116-02:302014-05-21T11:10:23.116-02:30SFM:
I agree routine and discipline help to allev...SFM:<br /><br />I agree routine and discipline help to alleviate these symptoms but now and again-----<br /><br />Yes, I worry a lot about estranged daughter and find it so difficult to talk about and find her erasure by other family members particularly stressful. As if she never existed. And then I get uncertain again.<br /><br />XO<br />WWW<br />Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-2622257433063617632014-05-21T11:08:06.673-02:302014-05-21T11:08:06.673-02:30OWJ:
Soul sisters yet again :)
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WWWOWJ:<br /><br />Soul sisters yet again :)<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-85055185687438148072014-05-21T11:07:38.752-02:302014-05-21T11:07:38.752-02:30Yeah, me too Maggie and it's only now and agai...Yeah, me too Maggie and it's only now and again my insecurities raise their uglies and I feel so insecure in this world.<br /><br />It has passed now thankfully. Until the next time :)<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-85930744591059449152014-05-21T11:06:23.223-02:302014-05-21T11:06:23.223-02:30Hattie:
The inadvertent damage done to kids makes ...Hattie:<br />The inadvertent damage done to kids makes my heart break. And as I said, I can't imagine what my parents went through with two of their kids in hospital at the same time and all their birth families far away in other towns.<br /><br />I still dream of what happened in nightmare form. Subconscious, etc.<br /><br />Yes, today is far more enlightened and how lovely your mother cuddled you for so long after.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-53510938146160015912014-05-21T00:29:41.229-02:302014-05-21T00:29:41.229-02:30Strange dichotomy I've got going on at the mom...Strange dichotomy I've got going on at the moment. Watching Dancing with the Stars and reading this post. I've read it 3 times and gone to the link about your past.<br /><br />The Black Dog: I can't believe I've lived my entire life and not heard the expression until today - here, and earlier on Bear's blog (Bear's Noting).<br /><br />Horrific life situations exist all around the globe. Sometimes I can force myself to be immune to the feelings; but at others times like now, I wonder why. Why the burden of the black dog? I'm sorry you're stuck with it here and there.Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08180243708565855383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-82981174642032783672014-05-20T17:52:16.886-02:302014-05-20T17:52:16.886-02:30I find that how much I trust someone varies from p...I find that how much I trust someone varies from person to person. Some people I trust immediately, they just seem to be honest and sensitive. Others I instantly mistrust, there's something shifty about them. But yes, sometimes that trust turns out to be misplaced and I end up getting hurt. And however long you live and whatever lessons you think you've learned, hurt is inevitable from time to time.nickhttp://nickhereandnow.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-17131188572775428212014-05-20T11:40:30.049-02:302014-05-20T11:40:30.049-02:30I'm afraid I have to agree with you on a coupl...I'm afraid I have to agree with you on a couple things. No, I don't think you can ever really 'know' someone, and I've learned that often you don't really want to be inside their head. <br /><br />Trust...it's possible, but when coupled with the above, it's something that is only proven correct over time. And as you've noted, time changes things, sometimes a lot. <br /><br />And yes, how things can turn on a dime, reversing course. A phone call in the middle of the night, you see it's from one of your kids. <br /><br />So far I've found few things ameliorate this condition. My personal treatment is habit and routine. Sort of works. Should Fish Morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18400586203204886095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-49036276516741512012014-05-20T09:57:34.554-02:302014-05-20T09:57:34.554-02:30Did I write this :)Did I write this :)One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12548226150115102345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-72022363087693093632014-05-20T05:02:21.445-02:302014-05-20T05:02:21.445-02:30Our childhood experiences do pave our life and can...Our childhood experiences do pave our life and can cause a real burden to us all through our it. We can live with things though and we don't have to be beaten by these fears.<br />I think we do have to trust but then I often feel insecure and abandoned and it's not easy to move on though most of the time I do.<br />Maggie x<br /><br /><a href="http://granniemay.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Nuts in May</a>Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-22424308140469897522014-05-20T03:42:16.906-02:302014-05-20T03:42:16.906-02:30My therapist would get so angry at what was once u...My therapist would get so angry at what was once upon a time standard treatment for sick children. Measles almost carried me off at age five, too. And I was hospitalized and felt that awful abandonment. My mother <br />"cured" me by doing nothing much for months but holding me on her lap. <br />Now one grandkid is having health problems and I'm so glad that she will probably come through her illness and treatment untraumatized, due to enlightened parents and medical personnel. Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02621439195920479957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-19037961441247286782014-05-19T23:19:52.123-02:302014-05-19T23:19:52.123-02:30SAW:
Thank goodness hospitals have changed and kid...SAW:<br />Thank goodness hospitals have changed and kids don't have to be left on their own anymore. Or put in adults' wards and used as a butt of jokes.<br />I still go back in nightmares to that time. Traumatizing for sure :)<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-87029151791468750742014-05-19T23:18:22.327-02:302014-05-19T23:18:22.327-02:30Irene:
Loss of naivety, that happened at a very y...Irene:<br /><br />Loss of naivety, that happened at a very young age for me. Yeah, I am cynical. Of course. But my trust issues are the ones that bite me all the time.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-80756200956523907272014-05-19T22:27:59.908-02:302014-05-19T22:27:59.908-02:30That's interesting - I had a similar experienc...That's interesting - I had a similar experience of being left in a hospital young (3, 4 & 5 years old). I probably only had to stay overnight each time, but I was scared and lonely. When my own son had to spend three nights in a hospital at 2 1/2 when he had brain surgery, I was there the whole time, by his crib when he woke up, holding him sa soon as they let me.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-83770394236610856182014-05-19T19:26:58.688-02:302014-05-19T19:26:58.688-02:30Well, I have certainly lost my naivety, which for ...Well, I have certainly lost my naivety, which for some reason I hung on to for a long time. I think that loss and the having to admit it, created the big chaos in me and made me lose it for a while. I have become a cynic, which in the end I like better for someone of my character. But I am not completely jaded. I am an optimist despite also being a realist. I still hold out some hope for the good in everyone. And that means, love.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-328027907238721492014-05-19T17:00:09.037-02:302014-05-19T17:00:09.037-02:30Sometimes I feel, dkzody, that I haven't learn...Sometimes I feel, dkzody, that I haven't learned a thing. For if I did, life wouldn't hurt so much sometimes :(<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-6956670366018436322014-05-19T13:51:29.278-02:302014-05-19T13:51:29.278-02:30I am thinking that one has to get to a certain poi...I am thinking that one has to get to a certain point in life to really see how they have lived their life. Or, is that just me? I was so busy living that I had little time to think. Now, in retirement, I have the time to consider my life, the decisions I made, the work I've done. I'm not always pleased with what I find, and wish, for a brief moment, that I could redo that part that rankles me now in old age. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com