tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post4322666706174160568..comments2024-03-18T11:32:50.070-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: My Rules of Life---Part FiveWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-59809465222443790852008-05-27T23:19:00.000-02:302008-05-27T23:19:00.000-02:30I so agree GM:Every day I'm vertical is a cause fo...I so agree GM:<BR/>Every day I'm vertical is a cause for a celebration. So many of my friends are horizontal.<BR/>We are blessed bloggers, no question!<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-75249137935115423512008-05-27T18:44:00.000-02:302008-05-27T18:44:00.000-02:30We all need to shake the dust from our shoes and m...We all need to shake the dust from our shoes and move on to new green fields.<BR/><BR/>There are only two things that we can be sure of in this life:<BR/><BR/>1. Nothing stays the same<BR/>2. We are all going to die.<BR/><BR/>So we better make the most of the time we have here!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-8328257619151046122008-05-27T14:26:00.000-02:302008-05-27T14:26:00.000-02:30Nora:I can't be anybody's role model. Our paths ar...Nora:<BR/>I can't be anybody's role model. Our paths are all unique and different and for you to follow me would be ignoring your own magical journey. You will find the way all by yourself.<BR/>We all do.<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-59905092728250763302008-05-27T14:25:00.000-02:302008-05-27T14:25:00.000-02:30Gaye:So good to have you back in our blogging worl...Gaye:<BR/>So good to have you back in our blogging world. I have missed you.<BR/>Yes I've stayed in relationships too because of the familiarity and the fear of the unknown. <BR/>but real life happens in the unknown.<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-50269340221411138882008-05-27T02:33:00.000-02:302008-05-27T02:33:00.000-02:30Slowly by slowly I am becoming emotionally unstuck...Slowly by slowly I am becoming emotionally unstuck, It is like a real birthing process and the labor is hard. This Nora woman has it in her to do great things, though. Can you be a bit of a role model to her? Just a teensy bit? Could you handle that?Norahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13116922613534761672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-51476227749357171242008-05-26T01:46:00.000-02:302008-05-26T01:46:00.000-02:30Hello me dear www! Sorry it has been long, but I m...Hello me dear www! Sorry it has been long, but I managed to catch up with reading it now.<BR/><BR/>I guess people find comfort in the septic tank, their familiar, secure, warm and cosy albeit smelly world where status quo reigns. Don't we stay in relationships for the sake of that comfort, familiarity, security even if it is not a happy space to be in? <BR/>I have done it myself, being stuck then deciding to be unstuck. Still much to learn.<BR/><BR/>I like your rules of life sequence of posts, can't wait for the next one.<BR/><BR/>GxoxoGayƩ Terziogluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13429669176156091603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-14031836541678136562008-05-25T21:48:00.000-02:302008-05-25T21:48:00.000-02:30Oh don't be so hard on yourself, OF:I think you fi...Oh don't be so hard on yourself, OF:<BR/>I think you fill your life with passion and eccentric criticisms and bring all sorts of forgotten memorabilia to the surface of others' lives.<BR/>I know you certainly enhance mine!<BR/>There is absolutely nothing feeble about you!<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-53141183510300061722008-05-25T21:46:00.000-02:302008-05-25T21:46:00.000-02:30H:somehow I knew that you were on a path that was ...H:<BR/>somehow I knew that you were on a path that was the one less travelled, like myself. Good for you! And life is so much more exciting and joyful for you. And it shows!<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-58893013086447879732008-05-25T19:11:00.000-02:302008-05-25T19:11:00.000-02:30Ouch! We who are stuck in our rut don't thank you ...Ouch! We who are stuck in our rut don't thank you for this - especially the floating in a septic tank image. Of course you're right - and I like your living by the ocean idea. We do get it, you know, but getting it makes us feel awkward - about not being so brave as you.<BR/>Feebly yours.Old Fogeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11247102564173946623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-74563584744821040022008-05-25T15:30:00.000-02:302008-05-25T15:30:00.000-02:30I left routine and predictability behind nearly a ...I left routine and predictability behind nearly a year ago when I decided to separate from my husband after many grey, unsatisfying years.<BR/><BR/>I left suburbia behind and headed for the city centre (a crime amongst those who like to place their bins exactly on the correct collection day)<BR/><BR/>I took and exotic and exciting lover (mothers aren't meant to have needs beyond their children)<BR/><BR/>I started taking my passion about my own career seriously and furthered studies (countering my belief that I would never be successful)<BR/><BR/>I learnt to live on my own (and stepped away from those who consider that only family life is normal and acceptable).<BR/><BR/>I have become stronger, more vital, more self sufficient and forgiving of the shortcomings of others than before. It was the best thing I did. I love that you tread the same path {{{WWW}}}Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-14607719015733953762008-05-25T13:05:00.000-02:302008-05-25T13:05:00.000-02:30Nick:I get you on the congestion bit. I love Belfa...Nick:<BR/>I get you on the congestion bit. I love Belfast, always have. Small enough to feel cosy and I gather you must have been welcome there. Small cities are often antagonistic towards new inhabitants. Vancouver is one such and my home city of Cork is another. Very difficult to break down the barriers and find new friends.<BR/>I'm so glad it all worked out for you!<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-49393465685514111502008-05-25T13:02:00.000-02:302008-05-25T13:02:00.000-02:30Nora;You have written about in your blog, it is so...Nora;<BR/>You have written about in your blog, it is so hard to determine our life's path and only we can do it. You can accept situations (which doesn't mean you approve of them)or for your own sanity and peace of mind move on, you need to weigh everything carefully, maybe with professional help if you are fragile.<BR/>Healing thoughts go your way.<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-31047845213723921642008-05-25T05:27:00.000-02:302008-05-25T05:27:00.000-02:30www, we always felt it was going to turn out well....www, we always felt it was going to turn out well. Jenny's father's family came from here originally, and we'd had several holidays here we really enjoyed. Living in London was full of problems - noise, congestion, house prices, too built-up etc. Life here was definitely better than expected. There's a sense of space and creativity, people are friendlier, there're beaches and mountains within easy reach, and Belfast is such a magical city (despite its past!). We certainly won't be leaving any time soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-75231172387199180612008-05-25T01:15:00.000-02:302008-05-25T01:15:00.000-02:30I may be about to take a huge risk and risk the he...I may be about to take a huge risk and risk the health of my state of mind instead of staying in a certain painful situation. A painful rut, sort to say. It scares the living hell out of me, but what is a woman to do when her mental health is at stake? Or her honor. Does that count for something too?Norahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14543678444899992860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-56882815753388396732008-05-24T22:00:00.000-02:302008-05-24T22:00:00.000-02:30Yes, I agree with Himself and you, T. It's all abo...Yes, I agree with Himself and you, T. It's all about risks. And never, ever losing that sense of wonder as a result!<BR/>I've a friend of 82 who is far, far younger than me as she says right out how she feels and does things spontaneously all the time, like dancing with 24 year old men and phoning me when I was in Toronto just to tell me she missed me and then hanging up. I love her to bits. She is fearless.<BR/>I'm workin' on it!!<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-88942808804392235492008-05-24T16:59:00.000-02:302008-05-24T16:59:00.000-02:30Hear hear, WWW! With you all the way.My husband ...Hear hear, WWW! With you all the way.<BR/><BR/>My husband always says that when you stop taking risks you start to get old....change involves taking risks, and I'm all for it.Twilighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14138621610593773784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-20943436889082198122008-05-24T13:52:00.000-02:302008-05-24T13:52:00.000-02:30Nora:tiny increments are fine, I believe, I really...Nora:<BR/>tiny increments are fine, I believe, I really didn't mean to talk of huge changes, they can be very unnerving, or very adventurous. I truly believe we have this short precious life and we need to make the most of it.<BR/>Nick:<BR/>I don't consider myself more adventurous even though most of my friends do. Apart from that 5% of my life where I'm down and depressed, I'd say I'm happier than most too in the 95%. If you can follow that ;^)<BR/>good for you and Jenny, how did you feel about the move originally and was it way better than expected?<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-84201021595477073842008-05-24T06:19:00.000-02:302008-05-24T06:19:00.000-02:30Good for you being more adventurous than most. It ...Good for you being more adventurous than most. It definitely pays off to throw all caution to the winds sometimes and just follow your heart. Sometimes I can do that, sometimes I'm a bit nervous of flapping my wings. But it was certainly a good move when we waved London goodbye and came to Ireland - it's been eight brilliant years. Too much routine can calcify the soul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-29160882597388144722008-05-24T03:06:00.000-02:302008-05-24T03:06:00.000-02:30Change can also be unsettling and unnerving and st...Change can also be unsettling and unnerving and stressful and some of us don't take to it very well and can only do change in tiny little increments. <BR/><BR/>Here's to those who do change well. I applaud them, because I am all for it. I am just not very good at it. Maybe in my next life, I will be a changeling and a time traveler.<BR/><BR/>Or better yet, maybe I was supposed to be these things in this life, but I got stuck in the wrong mind. How is that for an attitude change?Norahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14543678444899992860noreply@blogger.com