tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post4530446409450525820..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: DisplacementWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-57712154501569773772017-12-20T02:50:49.236-03:302017-12-20T02:50:49.236-03:30For many years after we moved across our continent...For many years after we moved across our continent when I was a preteen from where I was born. I felt a sense of longing to return there. It wasn’t really as simple as a geographic place I’ve come to realize after returning to that state eight years later. Subsequent moves within the state for another twelve years. Eventually, after another multi-state move I’ve ended up here on the U.S. West Coast in Southern California for almost forty-five years. I feel,this is where I belong, but the people I had naively assumed would be nearby are not as family and most friends have moved elsewhere and so many have died. Perhaps this seems like my place primarily just because it’s familiar. If I were to move now I doubt I would ever know a new area as well as I do this one since my activity would be more restricted. Valuing people more than geographic place, as I've realized I do, perhaps I would come to value that place, too, wherever it was. <br /><br />I do wish for you that your daughter could re-enter your life in some manner. <br /><br />I’ve long been repelled by the commercialism of all holidays, not just this one. There has also long seemed to be a lack of appreciation, or even acknowledgement, for the variety of celebratory reasons present in our nation — not just the monopoly of one. <br /><br />I don’t presume to know the “Cathedral” owner’s motivations for why he rendered first aid to the damaged roof area of your house, but am glad he did — less for you to have to think about. Interesting he leaves the impression he was unaware the structure he’s having built would have any effect on your property — hard to believe. joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-89967142209544940922017-12-14T16:10:39.607-03:302017-12-14T16:10:39.607-03:30I've never felt much sense of place but soldie...I've never felt much sense of place but soldiered on and made the best of it. My friends and pets were/are family, a dwindling number these days. December is a hard month for a lot of us. Best to you.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-29376370511090910082017-12-14T12:08:58.961-03:302017-12-14T12:08:58.961-03:30I've made the best of things with the self-ban...I've made the best of things with the self-banishment from Ireland 50 years ago. And cast off my years of attachment to a country that despised me. It did take years of returning before common sense set in.<br /><br />Mary, it sounds like you have a great book in you. One I'd love to read. <br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-80630067680549835052017-12-14T12:06:28.957-03:302017-12-14T12:06:28.957-03:30Welcome Jackie and thank you so much for your kind...Welcome Jackie and thank you so much for your kind words. A couple of other friends had the same feeling about Africa. One moved there. The other visits every chance she gets. <br /><br />My spiritual home is definitely here. Emotionally? not so much with missing daughter always a part of my incompleteness. I find it challenging to find the words to describe this void.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-5101025705334315882017-12-14T12:04:18.826-03:302017-12-14T12:04:18.826-03:30Me too Tom, this missing part of my life prevents ...Me too Tom, this missing part of my life prevents me feeling the completeness of that :(<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-33822943375545674762017-12-14T12:03:38.432-03:302017-12-14T12:03:38.432-03:30Thanks Annie. Geographically this is my home, I wa...Thanks Annie. Geographically this is my home, I was more into the emotional home and my missing daughter triggered that (thinking, optimistically, that everything would be more "home" if she was around). My feeling about Newfoundland was and remains visceral. It's really hard to find the words to adequately describe this. A tribal feeling.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-9231136869489061092017-12-14T12:01:39.877-03:302017-12-14T12:01:39.877-03:30I knew what you meant!
XO
WWWI knew what you meant!<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-14700019571107774402017-12-14T12:01:13.419-03:302017-12-14T12:01:13.419-03:30Keep me posted on your status, Ernestine. I can te...Keep me posted on your status, Ernestine. I can tell you this was the right time and place and circumstances for this massive downsizing move of mine. Absolutely no regrets. Onward my good friend!<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-88794637608591168202017-12-14T11:59:06.140-03:302017-12-14T11:59:06.140-03:30I do remember you mentioning that. I do this annua...I do remember you mentioning that. I do this annual post on her on FB and here in the hopes that someone will see and bring her back to the fold I can't imagine living so rootfree, cutting off everyone and everything.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-42238087719103509692017-12-12T09:35:32.581-03:302017-12-12T09:35:32.581-03:30I totally agree. The simple essence of Christmas h...I totally agree. The simple essence of Christmas has been swamped by all the consumerism and "doing Christmas better than the neighbours".nickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10472673041193755894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-73846953170500350122017-12-11T14:22:32.834-03:302017-12-11T14:22:32.834-03:30Moved here over 40 years ago. It never felt like ...Moved here over 40 years ago. It never felt like home. At that time too conservative. I have adapted to the environment now and have many friends and appreciate much of the good. I think I am living out my family's story - a mother and father who left the land of their birth (Scotland and Ireland) and came looking for a better life in America. it did not happen for them. They worked on big estates here and never had a home of their own. I have that and much more but have often felt homeless myself. And I agree so much with your comments on December. The gloomy weather has set in and doesn't help. Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07019795727444192776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-58705573875001624012017-12-11T10:03:22.160-03:302017-12-11T10:03:22.160-03:30Hello - I have come to you via another Blog. Lov...Hello - I have come to you via another Blog. Love your writing. Brilliant stuff. very personal and not at all " manufactured" so that makes it a pleasure to read. My spiritual home is South Africa. It was long before I went there. I just was told by a wise lady that I would connect with Africa. And how I have..... when I visit I just feel I am returning home although have no links with the place ( well I have now, but not family ones). So that is my spiritual home. Especially the veldt and the open spaces.<br />Re your daughter. I am sorry, I have only come across this post but will search more on this. I am sure it must be the most difficult enduring you have had to bear so I will read more and thank you again. Your " goodness" shines through. Never give p hope and maybe visualise your daughterAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10533294355165715030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-29318705190361151772017-12-09T21:40:10.219-03:302017-12-09T21:40:10.219-03:30For me, home is not a place, but where my family i...For me, home is not a place, but where my family is. May your daughter eventually find her way home.Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-13851783267273358512017-12-09T19:24:57.803-03:302017-12-09T19:24:57.803-03:30I do feel an attachment to where I live now. I spe...I do feel an attachment to where I live now. I spent a bunch of time away in other parts of Canada this summer and enjoyed every minute of it. Several times I thought, Oh I wish I could live here! But when I got home I was really, REALLY, glad to be HOME. It's not perfect but it suits me. I am so sorry about your missing daughter, I hope there is a reunion in your future.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03787701515460812026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-84514686382947772772017-12-09T17:28:54.364-03:302017-12-09T17:28:54.364-03:30I meant - a lot less responsibility :)
can not eve...I meant - a lot less responsibility :)<br />can not even typle today. First day peace has returned :)One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12548226150115102345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-6190216384161931082017-12-09T17:27:18.838-03:302017-12-09T17:27:18.838-03:30understand your words on Christmas, the first year...understand your words on Christmas, the first year nothing done here, family will arrive and set the table. I will make final plans on Tuesday if I sign. Going too no commitment but with cold cold winter will be nice to be near family and a lot of responsibility in this new wonderful place. Who knows<br />I might just stay :)One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12548226150115102345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-84410200236108829232017-12-09T16:01:33.781-03:302017-12-09T16:01:33.781-03:30You asked, "Do any of you out there have a st...You asked, "Do any of you out there have a strong, anchored feeling of "place"? " I don't, WWW. I'm an itchy-footed, non-rooted type at heart - maybe akin to the pesky bindweed in our strip of front garden - it travels and binds then travels on again. I'm at the end of my garden now though!<br /><br />Re Missing daughter, WWW - She will come, I'm convinced she will. Husband had one go similarly missing, decades ago, and she returned - now she has similar problems with her own daughter. Twilighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14138621610593773784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-42094947495867161632017-12-09T15:21:49.595-03:302017-12-09T15:21:49.595-03:30I'd say we're not alone Nacky. So many are...I'd say we're not alone Nacky. So many are just afraid to say it.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-54308530930008175772017-12-09T14:52:47.403-03:302017-12-09T14:52:47.403-03:30"I despise all this Christmas cheer and massi..."I despise all this Christmas cheer and massive consumerism. Somewhere along the way the message of quiet, peace and reflection was lost. Solstice helps. The coming of the Light and gratitude, the welcoming of another season of renewal."<br /><br />I agree with you 100%. It's torture--all I want is peace and solitude.<br />Nackyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07423148040667017253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-90743208027917640482017-12-09T10:39:12.364-03:302017-12-09T10:39:12.364-03:30I too am finished with long travelling trips unles...I too am finished with long travelling trips unless I can avoid airports and hassle. It is fraught with anxiety and misery for me. Even in full health others find it unbearable, what the hell happened?<br /><br />I do hope you enjoy your 75th Ramana. Knowing you no matter what happens you will.<br /><br />XO<br />WWW<br />Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-78893704682566308322017-12-09T10:36:53.186-03:302017-12-09T10:36:53.186-03:30At times, like today, it is unspeakable.
I do hop...At times, like today, it is unspeakable.<br /><br />I do hope you find your "place".<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-77425769747216166372017-12-09T10:35:54.346-03:302017-12-09T10:35:54.346-03:30Good for you DKZ, home is where your heart is.
XO...Good for you DKZ, home is where your heart is.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-22352964118177666692017-12-09T10:35:22.151-03:302017-12-09T10:35:22.151-03:30I felt very much at home here when I moved. Geogra...I felt very much at home here when I moved. Geographically I still do but emotionally I'm not so sure anymore. I don't know where I'd feel at home emotionally. Maybe it's the family disinterest.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-34723045336426303352017-12-09T09:07:53.703-03:302017-12-09T09:07:53.703-03:30I can relate. I have been displaced enough.
Stra...I can relate. I have been displaced enough.<br /><br />Strange that you have raised the question of 'place' today. It was only yesterday that a friend asked me what my family intended to do to celebrate my 75th coming up soon. Since those interested are all in the South of India and I am up in the West, I said that I am dissuading them from doing anything unless they are all willing to come up to Pune where I live. I added that my travelling days are over and I am now reluctant to leave my place!Rummuserhttp://rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-29109466214344253472017-12-09T04:33:08.947-03:302017-12-09T04:33:08.947-03:30i am really sorry for your missing child my friend...i am really sorry for your missing child my friend!!!<br /><br />i can imagine the pain and misery of a mother .<br /><br />i wish and pray may you see her soon and hug tight in your arms!<br />i live in my husband's city since 25 years but can't feel place as i am from northern part of country ,a lashing valley surrounded by hills i miss my homeland bailihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06498012175058870980noreply@blogger.com