tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post8297036431372268494..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: Some LessonsWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-29371689644045697962013-06-07T10:43:03.884-02:302013-06-07T10:43:03.884-02:30Veep:
I also believe that depressives (recognized...Veep:<br /><br />I also believe that depressives (recognized or unrecognized) are particularly prone to procrastination. Feelings of worthlessness, etc., collide with the stress of jobs uncompleted.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-2852356124803809042013-06-07T10:41:32.047-02:302013-06-07T10:41:32.047-02:30Nick:
Along with bad, lazy is not a word I use ei...Nick:<br /><br />Along with bad, lazy is not a word I use either.<br /><br />I think people who procrastinate, hoard, etc. are full of fear. Of the unknown, of even success. often perfectionists which is a recipe for 'failure' if I ever heard it. Prioritizing is also difficult. For me anyway with so much tugging on my apron strings all saying they're of the highest importance.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-63786032878826226042013-06-07T10:38:57.069-02:302013-06-07T10:38:57.069-02:30SAW:
I think perhaps we need to dig far deeper th...SAW:<br /><br />I think perhaps we need to dig far deeper than the labelling. So many are fast asleep and quite unaware of their own abusive natures due to earlier conditioning, shame, abuse, name it. My father was such. He was in a bubble of denial. Forever. His children still carry their own turmoil but labelling him "bad" would not be helpful. Wounded, troubled, yes.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-32983192470505571502013-06-07T10:36:27.630-02:302013-06-07T10:36:27.630-02:30Anon:
Yes there are more like us, often weary from...Anon:<br />Yes there are more like us, often weary from the struggle, I know I am as I see so much regression in rights it makes me so sad. <br /><br />Girls of today? So many are clueless and swallow the patriarchal koolaid.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-63092209546402681422013-06-07T10:34:48.668-02:302013-06-07T10:34:48.668-02:30Ramana:
Yes, but who determines the list?
LOL
Xo...Ramana:<br /><br />Yes, but who determines the list?<br />LOL<br /><br />Xo<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-88115736389440369602013-06-07T10:33:54.541-02:302013-06-07T10:33:54.541-02:30David:
Welcome!
The longer I live the less I know...David:<br />Welcome!<br /><br />The longer I live the less I know about anyone and everything.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-81094948683244698612013-06-06T16:38:41.709-02:302013-06-06T16:38:41.709-02:30"And it's not about the "too much on..."And it's not about the "too much on my plate" at all. I finally see this. It is in the way I manage it." Excellente pointe olde scribe. Something I need to remember in my procrastination-overwhelming days. vpViewPoint2010https://www.blogger.com/profile/01220005318305605072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-86328572309970197582013-06-06T13:49:23.875-02:302013-06-06T13:49:23.875-02:30Procrastination tends to have a negative meaning, ...Procrastination tends to have a negative meaning, but if it simply means postponing something that isn't as urgent as you imagine, and easing your chore-load, then that seems okay to me. Perhaps we should distinguish between lazily pushing something away and having a sensible order of priorities.nickhttp://nickhereandnow.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-36685144674808424002013-06-06T08:14:07.305-02:302013-06-06T08:14:07.305-02:30You know, when people put food on smaller plates, ...You know, when people put food on smaller plates, they eat less and maybe in a metaphorical way it makes sense to present ourselves with fewer options so that we do less. When we get to our deathbeds, I don't think how many items we struck off some arbitrary list is really going to be a concern.<br /><br />Mostly I agree about character traits being subjective and not necessarily good or bad, but not completely. There are parents who have character traits that are so damaging that I think you can safely label them (those traits) as "bad." Physical, sexual and emotional abuse, say. Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-32430705642111900522013-06-05T13:33:44.926-02:302013-06-05T13:33:44.926-02:30No matter how hard I try now in my old yars and ho...No matter how hard I try now in my old yars and how effortlessly I managed it 'then', I can barely stay able. It's one thing after another gets broken, or wrecked in some way and takes other parts of me with it. I speak of actual physical body. <br /><br />I can't find how to follow you, get your posts in my e-mail, whatever. I don't want to miss this opportunity of hooking up with women over 60. We are rare on the netz. I do enjoy the perspectives of younger women on the issues that concern me, I being a feminist, but where are the old ones, I wonder, in this movement that badly needs us. Oh I have read a few, but they seem to breath rarer air, still with their careers, writing books on feminist theory (yay!), but what about the foot soldiers like me? Surely there are more out there?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-80425400947484106012013-06-05T12:53:13.828-02:302013-06-05T12:53:13.828-02:30You have been following my posts for a long time a...You have been following my posts for a long time and wold know that for me events just kept overtaking me not because I deserved them or sought them, but because I was in the right place at the right time, again and again and some force kept me going upward. In the process, I really missed out on what I really wanted to do, which was to run a small farm. My late wife and I even bought one before her health put paid to that retirement plan and I had to become a full time care giver. Like your father, I missed out!<br /><br />Like you, I have just finished a book but, which is different in the contents, that talks about two mindsets. The fixed mindset and the growth mindset. Thanks to some good mentoring I became the latter in my early thirties and that has saved me from being frustrated. There are some remarkable quotes in that too which I am saving for use in my posts at opportune times.<br /><br />I too strongly believe that good and bad do not make sense and different makes. Like either or vs and.<br /><br />If there is a will, there is a way. Truism but it works. Keep striking items off the list. It happens by itself!<br />Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-67851966923701822662013-06-05T11:18:06.769-02:302013-06-05T11:18:06.769-02:30As teenagers, we thought we knew everything there ...As teenagers, we thought we knew everything there was to know about our parents. We were clueless. As parents we think we know everything about our children. We are clueless.<br /><br />Thank you for the insight.David Oliverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04260130060172457192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-26387502320478578402013-06-05T09:35:43.846-02:302013-06-05T09:35:43.846-02:30RJA:
Yes, I can so relate, especially as I'm ...RJA:<br /><br />Yes, I can so relate, especially as I'm winding down my business. Very very difficult.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-6041814232736850412013-06-05T09:34:57.626-02:302013-06-05T09:34:57.626-02:30Friko:
More to follow on this.
XO
WWWFriko:<br /><br />More to follow on this.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-41530757915246991772013-06-05T09:34:20.869-02:302013-06-05T09:34:20.869-02:30GM:
It's getting the plate downsized that is t...GM:<br />It's getting the plate downsized that is the challenge!<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-68855114082844720852013-06-05T09:33:51.647-02:302013-06-05T09:33:51.647-02:30SJG:
I get the silent migraines which are more ma...SJG:<br /><br />I get the silent migraines which are more manageable as there's no pain just the auras and flashing lights. I sympathise with you. <br /><br />I will do another post on what I've done to get that blasted to do list more manageable.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-6032195800637823682013-06-05T09:32:06.091-02:302013-06-05T09:32:06.091-02:30OWJ:
More to follow.
XO
WWWOWJ:<br /><br />More to follow.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-68371014909247530792013-06-05T00:50:33.124-02:302013-06-05T00:50:33.124-02:30It seems to me your learning to slow down just a l...It seems to me your learning to slow down just a little and take things easier - one of the great privileges of maturity. I'm still struggling with it. Sometimes my plate appears so huge it's virtually tectonic.R J Adamshttp://sparrowchat.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-61018937861274648582013-06-04T20:22:26.080-02:302013-06-04T20:22:26.080-02:30I no longer want to worry about who i am and what ...I no longer want to worry about who i am and what I am.<br />Enough already.<br /><br />I want to live and let live - myself first and foremost - and not give myself tasks, admonishments, punishments.<br /><br />True, sometimes there is too much on ones plate and I feel I cannot cope. If I can I will sort it out, if I can’t I’ll pay someone to sort it out for me. If neither works, I forget it.<br /><br />Throughout my life I have fought demons; enough already.<br /><br />What’s the item off your list? Do tell.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-88542887194939562452013-06-04T17:12:55.266-02:302013-06-04T17:12:55.266-02:30Downsizing the plate makes sense. The less it hold...Downsizing the plate makes sense. The less it holds, the fewer things to worry about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-54953782337509230672013-06-04T15:54:32.842-02:302013-06-04T15:54:32.842-02:30WW, please do share your behaviour changes stuff r...WW, please do share your behaviour changes stuff re being overwhelmed by not too much, but the way you manage it. I think I have been learning the same lesson, but still haven't gotten on top of it. <br /><br />I work with the affirmation "I have all the time in the world," and try to simplifly, simplify, simplify. But just the daily fundamentals seem to overwhelm -- the getting-in of food, the preparation of food, the cleaning-up after food -- and that's just the basics. <br /><br />For me: migraines. My inner self tells me it's not because of what I do or don't do, so much as because of the way I "respond" to events and situations. That sounds like what you're talking about. So I am paying attention to what you're saying! Because migraines suck the big one. Blondi Blathershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15656970490122824720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-63770194175981628232013-06-04T14:15:49.603-02:302013-06-04T14:15:49.603-02:30Were on the same page :)Were on the same page :)One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12548226150115102345noreply@blogger.com