tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post3636681209784827198..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: VulnerabilityWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-50364094203135737592012-06-12T18:52:31.790-02:302012-06-12T18:52:31.790-02:30FN:
Welcome!
And the more open we are the happier ...FN:<br />Welcome!<br />And the more open we are the happier and less alone we feel.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-46623446173362301072012-06-12T18:51:20.576-02:302012-06-12T18:51:20.576-02:30R:
Stiff upper lips can kill us. Or the most impor...R:<br />Stiff upper lips can kill us. Or the most important parts of us.<br />Sometimes there is no coming back. I see that very much in my children's father.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-81990899274539852782012-06-12T18:49:56.665-02:302012-06-12T18:49:56.665-02:30MM:
Yes, pain is the great leveller of us humans. ...MM:<br />Yes, pain is the great leveller of us humans. Particularly internal pain.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-56026009686786958462012-06-12T18:48:53.054-02:302012-06-12T18:48:53.054-02:30Joared:
yes we must use caution as betrayal can be...Joared:<br />yes we must use caution as betrayal can be a part of some people's arsenals. I too have been victimized.<br />And our children's suffering is so hard to take!<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-58603865991314797132012-06-12T18:48:48.037-02:302012-06-12T18:48:48.037-02:30Joared:
yes we must use caution as betrayal can be...Joared:<br />yes we must use caution as betrayal can be a part of some people's arsenals. I too have been victimized.<br />And our children's suffering is so hard to take!<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-6339512577452061812012-06-12T18:47:04.795-02:302012-06-12T18:47:04.795-02:30Friko~
And the more we throw lights on our dark co...Friko~<br />And the more we throw lights on our dark corners the better we feel!<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-8872566660612293282012-06-12T18:46:15.979-02:302012-06-12T18:46:15.979-02:30Carol:
Yes and feeling safe if we choose to be vul...Carol:<br />Yes and feeling safe if we choose to be vulnerable is important.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-73220658450302137332012-06-12T18:44:48.943-02:302012-06-12T18:44:48.943-02:30I agree Irene, we all have coping skills, see toda...I agree Irene, we all have coping skills, see today's post :)<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-53819314434814234372012-06-12T18:44:03.231-02:302012-06-12T18:44:03.231-02:30Anne:
Last time I looked none of us have the exemp...Anne:<br />Last time I looked none of us have the exemption certificate...<br />I hope you are doing OK.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-70272062653715070982012-06-12T18:17:01.720-02:302012-06-12T18:17:01.720-02:30BG:
Stiff upper lip doesn't get us anywhere, d...BG:<br />Stiff upper lip doesn't get us anywhere, does it?<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-60189896344566338172012-06-12T18:16:29.403-02:302012-06-12T18:16:29.403-02:30T:
Yes, you were raised with that nugget. We just ...T:<br />Yes, you were raised with that nugget. We just fell to our knees and prayed. And prayed.<br />And confessed. And prayed.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-35790868991903926862012-06-12T18:15:39.591-02:302012-06-12T18:15:39.591-02:30Annie,
I haven't watched it yet but have bookm...Annie,<br />I haven't watched it yet but have bookmarked it for later. Thanks!<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-71960162013675361212012-06-12T18:15:03.327-02:302012-06-12T18:15:03.327-02:30Nick:
Some things are more frightening than loneli...Nick:<br />Some things are more frightening than loneliness.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-87475371179467282122012-06-12T18:14:19.602-02:302012-06-12T18:14:19.602-02:30I agree, GM, I have one of those faces I've wr...I agree, GM, I have one of those faces I've written about before.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-32898438739596506752012-06-12T16:21:10.335-02:302012-06-12T16:21:10.335-02:30Touching post. Nothing fits nicely into square peg...Touching post. Nothing fits nicely into square pegs -- barbaraFolkways Note Bookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07168881905408345126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-89048637026339896922012-06-12T12:50:26.689-02:302012-06-12T12:50:26.689-02:30Vulnerability per se is natural and can be tackled...Vulnerability per se is natural and can be tackled provided, and that is a very big provided, there are places where such vulnerabilities can be shared. Most people do not find such fora and suffer. Eventually the suffering eats them away. There is also another aspect to it, an unwillingness to share with others the vulnerabilities which is more common than we would imagine. The latter is all the more poignant for its sheer inanity.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-52139023578376022022012-06-11T08:30:35.582-02:302012-06-11T08:30:35.582-02:30That post was written very well and I think most o...That post was written very well and I think most of us could identify with it. <br />We are all so fragile under our calm exteriors and occasionally the mask slips a bit for all of us to see that we are all human sharing the same problems and aches and pains.<br />Maggie X<br /><br /><a href="http://granniemay.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Nuts in May</a>Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-54641700236471165242012-06-11T06:06:15.045-02:302012-06-11T06:06:15.045-02:30You've introduced some interesting thoughts to...You've introduced some interesting thoughts to ponder.<br /><br />So true about lack of fear for being alone, but vulnerability being more of a concern. I do think one must be careful about the degree of vulnerability revealed to different people -- who we allow to "listen." <br /><br />I was aware of being incredibly vulnerable for some time after my husband's death, seemed unable to limit myself, possibly misplacing my attention to a listener which caused me to incur needless pain complicating and prolonging my adjustment. Also, had to cope with the surprising surfacing of old adolescent-type insecurities long ago overcome. <br /><br />I think we want to protect our children no matter their age, so we feel great pain when they do. Perhaps, we feel that somehow we've not been as successful as we wanted to be preparing our children to avoid many of their painful situations.joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-11007934546382793552012-06-10T20:11:31.322-02:302012-06-10T20:11:31.322-02:30Pain is universal. So is suffering. I don't be...Pain is universal. So is suffering. I don't believe there is anybody who does not suffer at some time in their life. We all know it but we keep our secrets to ourselves. Just occasionally, like you said, we let the 'underskirt' peep out through a crack in the facade.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-16131807012591348712012-06-10T19:14:49.318-02:302012-06-10T19:14:49.318-02:30You said it so much better than I ever could. Nev...You said it so much better than I ever could. Never afraid to be alone, absolutely afraid to be vulnerable. A work in progress. Sometimes one forgets we all have our issues, or demons whether or not we show them. I agree with Irene about developing coping skills and being proud of them. We need to know when its okay to be vulnerable and when not to be. Thanks for your wise words.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16487872520377988070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-49507409605540580652012-06-10T18:26:17.439-02:302012-06-10T18:26:17.439-02:30We all develop coping skills and, unless they are ...We all develop coping skills and, unless they are destructive habits, we should be complimented on developing them. It's a smart way to deal with what might be unbearable suffering otherwise. We should not give up everything that works. xoxIrenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-82530290498052635092012-06-10T13:15:16.308-02:302012-06-10T13:15:16.308-02:30Oh, yes, I'm there too. Struggling to keep fro...Oh, yes, I'm there too. Struggling to keep from falling into depression with all the stress of life. It's good to feel one is not alone. Your post reminds me that everyone has trouble.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04979547096244105508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-69114932413117386502012-06-10T12:55:22.732-02:302012-06-10T12:55:22.732-02:30I have reflected on this too, as of late, WWW. It ...I have reflected on this too, as of late, WWW. It seems we have drawn some of the same conclusions.BayGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10933199694750403822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-81858274012413007212012-06-10T12:10:57.539-02:302012-06-10T12:10:57.539-02:30Brits of my own generation still have "Keep C...Brits of my own generation still have "Keep Calm and Carry On" embedded in their consciousness, there since childhood. It's a fairly thin veneer though.<br />We're as fragile as everyone else underneath the wraps. :-)Twilighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14138621610593773784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-1541185939975820172012-06-10T10:08:05.165-02:302012-06-10T10:08:05.165-02:30A friend recently sent me this link to a TED talk ...A friend recently sent me this link to a TED talk about vulnerability and authenticity: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o (Brene Brown: the power of vulnerability). It's about 20 min but it says what you are saying and it is fun to watch. Basically, Ms Brown tells us that vulnerability is essential to our humanity, our happiness and satisfaction in life.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03787701515460812026noreply@blogger.com