tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post4334994401232075911..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: My Vanishing HistoryWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-80359164286499466272016-03-02T21:15:28.159-03:302016-03-02T21:15:28.159-03:30Unexpected losses can be particularly impacting so...Unexpected losses can be particularly impacting so I'm not surprised you might have dreamed of this unique individual in your life. Years ago I had a former boss with whom I'd not had a romantic relationship but had developed a lasting friendship with sustained contact through the years across the separating miles. I initially denied the fact of his death thinking it was one of his jokes, then felt quite shaken with the reality. My sympathy to you.<br /><br />Especially this past decade I've experienced family, friends decreasing significantly in number. I wonder how much longer some of the few left will be here, or will I depart first? I sometimes think part of me goes with them -- what we shared that I alone am left to remember but only from my perspective. And now I have learned the only contemporary friend left who has known me all my life is probably facing an unknown but shortened time. For me, these losses have been the most unwelcome part of aging -- the most unjust are those much younger I selfishly had comforted myself into believing would always be here with me. joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-79255584046646374112016-03-02T02:13:30.425-03:302016-03-02T02:13:30.425-03:30I'm sorry for the loss of your ex-boss. I hope...I'm sorry for the loss of your ex-boss. I hope he was happy and that he did some good in the larger world with his money. How are you?ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-44820205148556592692016-02-28T15:17:31.848-03:302016-02-28T15:17:31.848-03:30You know SAW, I think he got his jollies where he ...You know SAW, I think he got his jollies where he found them and as money bought them and wasn't much of a deep philosopher and I'd say he died happy, feeling successful.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-89147687268896909062016-02-28T15:16:20.201-03:302016-02-28T15:16:20.201-03:30Yes, I was trying to describe that feeling. Though...Yes, I was trying to describe that feeling. Though one of mine, an awful ex-marine guy who snapped at everyone and everything, smoked like a chimney and drank like Niagara is still among us, tottering around on FB looking like Keith Richards. LOL<br /><br />XO<br />WWW Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-84791005598520379262016-02-28T15:14:23.533-03:302016-02-28T15:14:23.533-03:30"the object of my thoughts has rolled off the..."the object of my thoughts has rolled off the cushion of life" what a lovely turn of phrase, GM. Though life can be a prickly cushion at times :) Yes, just a moment in time. Make of it what we will indeed.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-5794998679405942272016-02-28T15:12:51.708-03:302016-02-28T15:12:51.708-03:30Endless cycles I guess you're saying, doomed t...Endless cycles I guess you're saying, doomed to repeat and who's to know about cellular memory? God and this magical heaven where birthdays are still celebrated and endless frolicking pervades life is a comfort to so many and I don't see anything wrong with it apart from the treatment of planet earth in the meantime. Because Rapture. Because Saved.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-46202321575438759142016-02-28T15:10:42.340-03:302016-02-28T15:10:42.340-03:30So true. Being in an intimate relationship with so...So true. Being in an intimate relationship with someone that ambitious would be lacking in ongoing support and emotional unavailability. I saw it first hand with wives' distress.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-4848636812438927012016-02-28T15:09:30.731-03:302016-02-28T15:09:30.731-03:30Actually Maggie, it's the night of the day I w...Actually Maggie, it's the night of the day I was told about him that I dreamed of him.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-88377365968040361722016-02-28T15:08:57.730-03:302016-02-28T15:08:57.730-03:30Yes, I find even dislikeable people sometimes the ...Yes, I find even dislikeable people sometimes the most fascinating to study as preconceived notions are often so very wrong.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-52833022113619634902016-02-28T15:08:10.549-03:302016-02-28T15:08:10.549-03:30Pretty hard to do when he's an employer, Hatti...Pretty hard to do when he's an employer, Hattie :)<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-90529243822702592332016-02-27T10:13:14.717-03:302016-02-27T10:13:14.717-03:30All that success but ultimately, for what? I don&#...All that success but ultimately, for what? I don't know... it sounds sad to me that he was so driven. But I also don't want to judge, not knowing how he really felt about his life. Obviously made some women unhappy, though!Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-43472099694766504462016-02-26T18:37:16.446-03:302016-02-26T18:37:16.446-03:30I know the feeling. Except for the very large urba...I know the feeling. Except for the very large urban school district for which I worked 21 years, all the rest of my employers are gone. Kaput. Out of business. It's almost like they never existed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-16178086143518877722016-02-26T04:11:36.579-03:302016-02-26T04:11:36.579-03:30'Dreaming about'or 'thinking about'...'Dreaming about'or 'thinking about' are terms that Elly does not like to hear me utter, often we discover that the object of my thoughts has rolled off the cushion of life. I am well resigned to the fact that when my time comes, any space I held, will refill quickly with others and I will be forgotten and that is how it should be... we are here for a moment... a speck of dust on the planet. Hopefully today will be mine and I can use it to help and not hinder others.Grannymarhttp://grannymar.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-50053226468615609642016-02-25T22:53:42.113-03:302016-02-25T22:53:42.113-03:30Yeah....does our 'history' vanish with us,...Yeah....does our 'history' vanish with us, that's what I'm taking the question as....<br />In a way, yeah, it does. The last images of my dad, in my brain, and other things from that time, the 50's mostly will vanish. Gone, with me. Nothing I did in my life will outlast me by 50 years, at the very most. What then?<br />We'll be part of the earth, a part of the air we breath now, somehow somewhere.<br />What will we have? My view? Nothing, other than the oblivion we all seek when things are too much for us.It's helpful, isn't it, for us to think there is something else, something beyond this life. We're reborn, we come back in some fashion, or it's the other way, we go on to that afterlife, where we meet 'god'. <br /> That's fine, for all it comforts, best to them.<br />Back to the question, does history vanish. No, it does not.<br />What does remain is the question: what does that history, the things before us, mean? What do we do with the knowledge? <br />We're working on the history past right now, the current issues and events are just a fast forward on the events of previous years. <br />Should Fish Morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18400586203204886095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-32874892095215249612016-02-25T14:23:12.018-03:302016-02-25T14:23:12.018-03:30Strange that you dreamed about him just the previo...Strange that you dreamed about him just the previous night. His life sounds sad to me, always seeking something not found. I guess my view is colored by a close relation with a successful business life but wives++++ (and on).Linda P.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-11686526484336288592016-02-25T08:19:37.084-03:302016-02-25T08:19:37.084-03:30Extraordinary tale too! Strange that you should dr...Extraordinary tale too! Strange that you should dream about him like that the night he died.<br />Just proves when the times up, no amount of money can save you.<br />Maggie xMaggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-75591265233749375602016-02-25T04:57:36.206-03:302016-02-25T04:57:36.206-03:30I have known others like him over here and the fac...I have known others like him over here and the fact of different nationalities does not take away the common traits such entrepreneurs have. Truly a remarkable man to have known.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-34872714459333899062016-02-25T02:39:03.789-03:302016-02-25T02:39:03.789-03:30This comment has been removed by the author.Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297404386730167834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-30666208493653885032016-02-25T02:38:53.653-03:302016-02-25T02:38:53.653-03:30Interesting. The kind of person I avoid,which is d...Interesting. The kind of person I avoid,which is due to my lack of imagination about men!Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297404386730167834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-57476144765602172122016-02-24T23:00:19.404-03:302016-02-24T23:00:19.404-03:30Wives ++ Nick, if you catch my drift. An addiction...Wives ++ Nick, if you catch my drift. An addiction. He was unknowable to many. I could never say I knew him as he was quite unreachable. Charming though a complete an enigma. Came to work with an Irish setter which I could never fault :)<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-30895161856444694752016-02-24T19:12:46.819-03:302016-02-24T19:12:46.819-03:30Sounds like a fascinating guy. His obsession with ...Sounds like a fascinating guy. His obsession with his company was a typical male trait, I guess. Did he ever have a wife or regular girlfriend or was he too driven to have time for more than bedmates?nickhttp://nickhereandnow.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-85815771221457133152016-02-23T23:23:32.115-03:302016-02-23T23:23:32.115-03:30Naw, not really "friendship" Kate - he w...Naw, not really "friendship" Kate - he was too self-involved for that. I did meet his parents, some of his lovers, his brothers, but never in a domestic situation. I think he was a very lonely man inside and he truly was addicted to the trappings of wealth. His best friend was murdered in front of him which was part of his story. Not enough there for a biography though it might be fun to fictionalize the unknowns. <br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-37038740562220059262016-02-23T22:39:36.384-03:302016-02-23T22:39:36.384-03:30Maybe you'll be writing his biography!
Sounds ...Maybe you'll be writing his biography!<br />Sounds like a unique friendship between you. <br />Nice dream, too. Katehttp://goldengrainfarm.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com