tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post5796724569864172832..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: Follow-up to Betrayal StoryWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-83773494376272344112013-03-24T10:33:55.238-02:302013-03-24T10:33:55.238-02:30Jay:
It only took a few minutes really. What eart...Jay:<br /><br />It only took a few minutes really. What earthly purpose would it serve? I had never made the conneciton of her grabbing the nearest man before. Of course.<br /><br />I could never ever trust her plus I'd never be able to climb over the baggage.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-31264625677496157912013-03-24T10:31:59.959-02:302013-03-24T10:31:59.959-02:30SAW:
I get you. In her case saying what I would t...SAW:<br /><br />I get you. In her case saying what I would to her re her hurtful behaviour would have no effect and there would be the danger I'd blurt what happened on her wedding day.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-91928916216186245632013-03-23T17:26:14.947-02:302013-03-23T17:26:14.947-02:30Oh gosh. I've just read the two part betrayal...Oh gosh. I've just read the two part betrayal story. It's sad. It makes me angry for you, but mostly it's sad, because it's the story of weak individuals who don't have any backbone. What happened to Ilona to make her grab the nearest man to what she perceived as the ideal? First Ian's brother and then Ted? <br /><br />But yes, golly, what a betrayal. And then she acts as if nothing has happened and wants to be friends with you on Facebook. I'd probably take a day or two to think it over, but in the end I doubt I'd do more than simply ignore the request. I doubt any good would come of letting her close to you again.Jay at The Depp Effecthttp://www.thedeppeffect.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-86825838375243676592013-03-23T13:29:27.089-02:302013-03-23T13:29:27.089-02:30I wasn't suggesting you invite her in or renew...I wasn't suggesting you invite her in or renew a friendship - just saying that for some people, there's healing in saying what they want to say to someone who has hurt them. For others, there's blocking!Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-1782131280728213382013-03-22T21:38:34.313-02:302013-03-22T21:38:34.313-02:30Thanks Pamela.
Exactly. It was a surprise but not...Thanks Pamela.<br /><br />Exactly. It was a surprise but not worth the trouble of enlightening her and no point to it.<br /><br />Humans<br /><br />Weird species we got goin'.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-63634258989455884662013-03-22T17:20:07.173-02:302013-03-22T17:20:07.173-02:30I'm pretty sure that as you crossed her off yo...I'm pretty sure that as you crossed her off your list a long time ago, she is going to stay off. And all her overtures to reconnect will be for nought, as you will ignore her. <br /><br />Yes, the WWW knows what to do!<br /><br />Hugs to you. <br /><br />l,ady Luz(Pamela)http://mipieenmiboca.blogspot.com.esnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-48799525357896358722013-03-22T15:11:00.237-02:302013-03-22T15:11:00.237-02:30Tessa:
Then she would know how her groom behaved o...Tessa:<br />Then she would know how her groom behaved on her wedding day. I'm not sure I could do that to anyone. No, I'm not going to bother. I only posted to show how deeply disconnected some people are from their own hurtful actions.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-72517629896835260842013-03-22T12:06:19.841-02:302013-03-22T12:06:19.841-02:30WWW, when the person who has offended you so deepl...WWW, when the person who has offended you so deeply is as unaware of her transgression as this one, there's no point in reuniting, Even if she'd started out with a heartfelt apology, 'm not sure I would bother. Maybe if you sent her a link to the two posts, she might get the message? ;) Tessanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-75474929364450310202013-03-22T10:36:46.853-02:302013-03-22T10:36:46.853-02:30Marc:
Even curiosity doesn't tweak reopening ...Marc:<br /><br />Even curiosity doesn't tweak reopening the door. I just don't care.<br /><br />I'm coming from a place where her gall astonishes me.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-24025816586703000672013-03-22T10:35:52.769-02:302013-03-22T10:35:52.769-02:30Annie:
She was an adored only child but I think th...Annie:<br />She was an adored only child but I think this contributed to her narcissism and maybe lack of socialization.<br />I agree upon explanation, it solves nothing, her future behaviour would always be suspect and untrustworthy.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-80107156847214018882013-03-22T10:34:14.738-02:302013-03-22T10:34:14.738-02:30Anon:
My thoughts exactly.
XO
WWWAnon:<br /><br />My thoughts exactly.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-71006981926120515722013-03-22T10:31:59.282-02:302013-03-22T10:31:59.282-02:30Ramana:
I am always so delighted when men get the...Ramana:<br /><br />I am always so delighted when men get the complexity (at times) of female friendships. Poaching each other's men (wedding days included, lol) is just not done if there is any depth to them. I imagine the same unwritten rule holds true for poaching other men friends' women.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-85305193325749010422013-03-22T10:29:35.860-02:302013-03-22T10:29:35.860-02:30SAW:
Telling her would not enlighten her. I am ju...SAW:<br /><br />Telling her would not enlighten her. I am just so shocked she still thinks, after all these years, that was some thread to hang our connection on?<br /><br />I would not even want her in my home.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-15951530850752061332013-03-22T10:28:07.677-02:302013-03-22T10:28:07.677-02:30GM:
My thoughts exactly.
XO
WWWGM:<br />My thoughts exactly.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-17710362834417110142013-03-22T10:27:42.561-02:302013-03-22T10:27:42.561-02:30Irene:
I place a huge value on my female friendshi...Irene:<br />I place a huge value on my female friendships and boinking their men, whether they are "done" with them or not is not something I would ever do. And I can't even count the opportunities I've had. Seriously. My women friends come first. Always.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-10990025685441197482013-03-22T10:26:08.501-02:302013-03-22T10:26:08.501-02:30Irene:
I think her code of ethics is quite differe...Irene:<br />I think her code of ethics is quite different from mine. She is oblivious and who needs her?<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-455353865543037422013-03-22T10:12:24.422-02:302013-03-22T10:12:24.422-02:30I really, REALLY like cliches.
Here are a few of ...I really, REALLY like cliches.<br /><br />Here are a few of my favorites:<br /><br />Once burnt, twice shy.<br /><br />What you see, is what you get.<br /><br />Stay away from losers. Marc Leavitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400805396776788101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-63393537632681683912013-03-22T09:14:04.469-02:302013-03-22T09:14:04.469-02:30She sounds very needy, I suspect she was a neglect...She sounds very needy, I suspect she was a neglectful mother because she herself was neglected. In any case, regardless of her bad behaviour I would avoid her. Her neediness does not sound like it has abated, and an explanation would only invite yet more communication.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03787701515460812026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-50724491090696395982013-03-22T07:47:56.963-02:302013-03-22T07:47:56.963-02:30just not the kind of person anyone want to know.bl...just not the kind of person anyone want to know.block her from f'book and put her out of your mind..as in 'she fell off the planet'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-7185427719925200472013-03-22T03:30:44.471-02:302013-03-22T03:30:44.471-02:30I went back to read both the earlier posts and am ...I went back to read both the earlier posts and am amazed at the powerful story. Things like that happen here but somehow one does not expect the same in Canada, though possible in the USA and the UK! I suppose that human beings will be human beings wherever!<br /><br />I suspect that apart from all other character defects, this lady would appear to suffer from a very bad memory/attention span. <br /><br />To answer your question, Bob is your uncle, I would not, not even with a barge pole!Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-17289011097991072672013-03-21T20:00:47.252-02:302013-03-21T20:00:47.252-02:30I take it that she was one of the women who partic...I take it that she was one of the women who participated in the pact that you not date your friend's exes? If so, that was an outrageous betrayal. If not, still a pretty questionable behavior. But given the rest of her decision making, in keeping with her character. I'd probably either continue to ignore her or just go on and block her. Unless you just want to tell her why you have no interest in staying in touch, since she's clearly too oblivious to discern it on her own.Secret Agent Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564690116156754219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-55329186715001013042013-03-21T17:54:05.833-02:302013-03-21T17:54:05.833-02:30I would be very tempted to ignore the messages for...I would be very tempted to ignore the messages for a few weeks then quietly block the sender when things quieten down.Grannymarhttp://grannymar.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-58932667045066929222013-03-21T17:53:04.020-02:302013-03-21T17:53:04.020-02:30I think that you have to re-evaluate her "bet...I think that you have to re-evaluate her "betrayal." You were done with Ted, weren't you? Weren't you a little drastic? Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-10749747426713374492013-03-21T17:40:51.803-02:302013-03-21T17:40:51.803-02:30She seems to be oblivious of her crime. It may be ...She seems to be oblivious of her crime. It may be worth it to get in touch with her. Aren't you a little curious? You are separated by miles. Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.com