tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post7357679435328272239..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: Elder Revelation or HawHeyWhoYah!Wisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-80797679889482815472007-11-04T16:46:00.000-03:302007-11-04T16:46:00.000-03:30Pants:I like that, we don't need them, in spite of...Pants:<BR/>I like that, we don't need them, in spite of loving them. It took me years and years to get to this space and distance does help. You will be thrown into the tribal cauldron shortly. Good luck! <BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-71692623648082355622007-11-04T16:44:00.000-03:302007-11-04T16:44:00.000-03:30Medbh:I agree, and my friends who are doing exactl...Medbh:<BR/>I agree, and my friends who are doing exactly that are lost and some have embraced religion again and view the familial enmeshment as duty and sacrifice and we all know how that works out. They go on and on...<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-57094533615453924962007-11-04T15:27:00.000-03:302007-11-04T15:27:00.000-03:30Hi WWWThis post cheered me enormously. I'm about t...Hi WWW<BR/><BR/>This post cheered me enormously. I'm about to move back to my home country after 25 years of having no interference at all from family. What you say so eloquently is what many of us solitary folk feel. You can love your family and know that they are terrific people whose company you enjoy if they happen to be there BUT if you can quite happily go YEARS without seeing them and not feel deprived in any way. It doesn't mean you don't love them. It means you don't need them.<BR/><BR/>xxx<BR/><BR/>PantsPantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00712642194215828800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-12549310982597707982007-11-04T13:43:00.000-03:302007-11-04T13:43:00.000-03:30The women in the sandwich generation put the famil...The women in the sandwich generation put the family first and have little time to even reflect on their own needs let alone meet them. I couldn't do it.<BR/>Lucky you for getting a room of your own so to speak.Megan McGurkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09673489472490377198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-78153199376394910462007-11-03T17:17:00.000-02:302007-11-03T17:17:00.000-02:30Oh yes I do Richard! My friends and I have jokingl...Oh yes I do Richard! My friends and I have jokingly formed a cliff walking club. And have found some pretty high wide and mighty cliffs. And we tell each other that we will know when the day comes when we take that solitary walk (and leap).<BR/>XO<BR/>WWW<BR/>PS Probably better in the thought than the execution, my Irish luck might see me as a helpless quad drooling in a wheelchair and nobody to push it anywhere!Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-55031075664009307382007-11-02T18:35:00.000-02:302007-11-02T18:35:00.000-02:30All power to your elbow, www.I know it's a pretty ...All power to your elbow, www.<BR/><BR/>I know it's a pretty morbid subject but I always say that if I finish up being 'the one left' between the pair of 'us' - then I'm up & away from here. To somewhere a lot warmer!<BR/><BR/>I don't want to hang around here long enough for anyone get so fed up with me that they'll (as the saying goes), put me in a 'home' - for my own good.<BR/><BR/>Heh. I'm certain you know exactly what I mean. :^)Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11048198233889575116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-71731659998775787202007-11-01T20:57:00.000-02:302007-11-01T20:57:00.000-02:30Nick:The old ones used to have it. Once you take c...Nick:<BR/>The old ones used to have it. Once you take care of yourself first, then you can take care of others, it doesn't work the other way.<BR/>GM<BR/>Compared to you, I feel like I'm on the very edge of an outpost way out here (but sssh, loving it!)<BR/>XO<BR/>WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-15938416105718804612007-11-01T20:03:00.000-02:302007-11-01T20:03:00.000-02:30What a wonderful post! I too learned the Old Wom...What a wonderful post! I too learned the Old Woman of the Roads in school.<BR/><BR/>I now live 126 miles away from Elly and my siblings. It is no distance nowadays with both landline and cellphones, e-mail,MSN Messenger, Skype, Twitter and Jaiku to keep us in touch.<BR/><BR/>I wonder how i have the time to blog!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-21076254461573969122007-11-01T19:43:00.000-02:302007-11-01T19:43:00.000-02:30Good for you, making your own space and refusing a...Good for you, making your own space and refusing any longer to be at everyone else's beck and call. It's so easy to sacrifice our own interests in the belief that we're being 'selfish' or 'not doing our duty'. A sense of self-preservation is vitally important - I've always had that too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com