tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post7586359502500540820..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: SafetyWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-12482405720650210612016-03-27T08:07:48.936-02:302016-03-27T08:07:48.936-02:30I know what you mean about confiding in someone, o...I know what you mean about confiding in someone, only for them to trivialise what you've told them and launch into their own troubles. Like a slap in the face, as you say.<br /><br />I don't think many people are really light and fluffy and able to take life's ups and downs on the chin. I think most people are just as vulnerable to hurt and pain and grief, but they may prefer not to show it and put on a cheerful face.<br /><br />I hope the counselling is helping you to cope better with your inner demons.nickhttp://nickhereandnow.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-50597144547340349322016-03-26T12:38:24.490-02:302016-03-26T12:38:24.490-02:30Most people are so self occupied that when someone...Most people are so self occupied that when someone shares something they immediately take off into their own side of perceived problems etc, although they would have started off by asking the first person as to how they are. That opening is an invitation to say something and then wait for the tirade to follow! I avoid such people.Rummuserhttp://www.rummuser.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-44179896624158133982016-03-24T15:48:19.787-02:302016-03-24T15:48:19.787-02:30The thing was Linda, with him, there wasn't on...The thing was Linda, with him, there wasn't one death, it was his trip to Florida cancelled, his grandchild diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes and a brother with cancer, and not being able to go to his cottage for hunting and a car accident with no one hurt. And minor surgery. I honestly felt assaulted. I suppose I was. I am so lucky to have here and blog friends like yourself. <br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-59635199964092960832016-03-24T15:45:56.134-02:302016-03-24T15:45:56.134-02:30The pain seems to reach out and grab me. I wish it...The pain seems to reach out and grab me. I wish it were a choice situation but it isn't for me.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-89953769837381221442016-03-24T15:45:07.008-02:302016-03-24T15:45:07.008-02:30When I look back Hattie, it was my maternal grandm...When I look back Hattie, it was my maternal grandmother who had the symptoms I have. She never recovered from my mother's death. It is a beast.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-19162294670305204272016-03-24T15:43:54.028-02:302016-03-24T15:43:54.028-02:30Yes, it never leaves Kathy, it trots along beside ...Yes, it never leaves Kathy, it trots along beside us forever. And each new loss opens the entire floodgates once again.<br /><br />He is amazing, this counsellor, I feel so fortunate.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-7049470036544619042016-03-24T15:42:22.102-02:302016-03-24T15:42:22.102-02:30And new tools all the time if we continue the ques...And new tools all the time if we continue the quest, Lori. And share. It is so important to know we're not alone.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-72703235720626671142016-03-24T09:03:16.685-02:302016-03-24T09:03:16.685-02:30When you share with others and make yourself vulne...When you share with others and make yourself vulnerable, it's crushing to realize that the person to whom you have spoken hasn't been hearing you at all. Instead that person has viewed everything you've said as an entree to garner empathy or sympathy for his or her trials. Perhaps just realizing that's what that person is doing is enough to lessen the hurt, but, if so, I haven't yet found a way to totally escape feeling hurt in such situations. I hope you have. Perhaps one antidote is sharing here and, hopefully, feeling that you are heard. Linda P.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-26372426245428869272016-03-24T08:34:26.034-02:302016-03-24T08:34:26.034-02:30I understand all you share
and cannot share as blu...I understand all you share<br />and cannot share as bluntly on my blog<br />since children and grandchildren read.<br />Wish at times they did not know about my love of writing.<br />Please take care and you are growing.<br />I too<br />growing and learning and had to stop going back to all the pain or it would take me..My Journey To Mindfulnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15743386000772274656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-58237384627058068402016-03-24T05:19:24.725-02:302016-03-24T05:19:24.725-02:30I do get down sometimes but nothing like what you ...I do get down sometimes but nothing like what you describe. My mother suffered the way you do, and I wish I could have been more understanding. Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297404386730167834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-7423127504117644792016-03-24T00:37:28.826-02:302016-03-24T00:37:28.826-02:30It's very interesting too and helpful when you...It's very interesting too and helpful when you write about conversations with your counsellor and the practical balancing you get from them. <br /><br />Life sure does have rough patches. <br /><br />What did I hear somewhere lately about grief ... something about we don't get over it; our job is to survive it.Blondi Blathershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15656970490122824720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-84439461042270856162016-03-24T00:25:25.497-02:302016-03-24T00:25:25.497-02:30Thank you. I'm quite familiar with the Black D...Thank you. I'm quite familiar with the Black Dog. I appreciate being reminded "It comes down to the tools we have to just deal." Yes, grateful. LoriLorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16072335335254023702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-22751411535051011882016-03-23T23:25:19.350-02:302016-03-23T23:25:19.350-02:30Thank you E. It helps me immeasurably too.
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WWW...Thank you E. It helps me immeasurably too.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-17471575621671723742016-03-23T23:24:40.340-02:302016-03-23T23:24:40.340-02:30One of the reasons I write so intimately and anony...One of the reasons I write so intimately and anonymously here is for those who totally "get it" like you K. Thank you for your kind words.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-13703743959756127902016-03-23T22:45:05.466-02:302016-03-23T22:45:05.466-02:30I am grateful that you are here and talk about rea...I am grateful that you are here and talk about real situations and feelings.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-28346476674985466472016-03-23T22:36:20.601-02:302016-03-23T22:36:20.601-02:30And your readers are grateful for your sharing and...And your readers are grateful for your sharing and insights, which greatly help us in similar times of struggle (fighting off the black dog too). Thank you most sincerely.krayolakrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13887066973588730515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-50127649835815121632016-03-23T21:04:57.566-02:302016-03-23T21:04:57.566-02:30Thank you for that John.
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WWWThank you for that John.<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-73107274535553728792016-03-23T20:33:12.033-02:302016-03-23T20:33:12.033-02:30Believe me
I know just how difficult the path you...Believe me <br />I know just how difficult the path you are walking feels xJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.com