tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post768596229948297697..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: The UnwritableWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-33145251010930711362023-03-16T17:00:22.012-02:302023-03-16T17:00:22.012-02:30Late here, but this post resonates with me. I fear...Late here, but this post resonates with me. I fear having to go to a nursing home and being forced to live, when I’d rather pass on. No children and my friends are older than me, so in all likelihood, I’ll end up alone. Another dreary thought. I think we should have the legal right to chose when we are ready to go,but that’s never gonna happen here in the US.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-85347205387877436822022-08-23T12:43:10.804-02:302022-08-23T12:43:10.804-02:30Hear, hear Charlotte! WWW, the current crew in pow...Hear, hear Charlotte! WWW, the current crew in power in the USA certainly isn't anything to brag about. Loads of judgement and being told how to think and name calling seems to be the norm. We're a mess all around. The hypocrisy on both sides is astounding. I'm ready for a serious, moderate third party. Kim in PAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-31299940336986134022022-08-22T13:49:36.890-02:302022-08-22T13:49:36.890-02:30I love the meta flavour of your comment DKZ! Writi...I love the meta flavour of your comment DKZ! Writing your post on this, my making a comment on yours and returning to my original post. Well done us!<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-55218905345336843142022-08-21T19:59:24.922-02:302022-08-21T19:59:24.922-02:30This has actually resonated quite a bit with me pr...This has actually resonated quite a bit with me prompting a bit of introspection over past relationships from my youth. <br /><br />It turns out that I see nothing "special" in my parents. They were only married a few years and my dad has never really had an important role in my life. My mom left my sister and I with my grandparents when I was 10 -- I had to make to collect call to ask them to drive the 90 miles to come get us. I lived with them until I was 15. <br /><br />I never really got to know my 4 half-siblings as they've always lived over 1,000 miles away.<br /><br />Those from my youth that were and remain the "special" ones for me were my grandmother, my step-grandfather [and ALL of his family] and my mom's brother, the only one still surviving. Mike Goadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01909276588431011926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-43096343478003760192022-08-21T18:17:23.782-02:302022-08-21T18:17:23.782-02:30Ah, ha...so you are the one who asked that questio...Ah, ha...so you are the one who asked that question about fear! I knew it was someone I like because it resonated so clearly with me, which often happens when the comment or question comes from someone highly admired and respected. And so, I thought long and hard, and responded, to which you responded. dkzodyhttps://dkzody.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-28536077379552277712022-08-20T23:20:11.646-02:302022-08-20T23:20:11.646-02:30Oddly enough E, I don't think that's too m...Oddly enough E, I don't think that's too much of a worry. I observe closely those I care about who fall into dementia and it's quite invisible to them. My friend L keeps asking me her about her diagnosis but it's forgotten within a very short time. She is just so in the moment.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-4798541623355552292022-08-20T23:16:40.980-02:302022-08-20T23:16:40.980-02:30Mental sharpness...Mental sharpness...ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-55742504700187832702022-08-20T17:18:41.061-02:302022-08-20T17:18:41.061-02:30But I should add that my relationships with older ...But I should add that my relationships with older daughter and my 27yo granddaughter are stellar and totally supportive.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-33522933078322908862022-08-20T17:16:54.441-02:302022-08-20T17:16:54.441-02:30Thanks for expanding Mike. My younger has estrange...Thanks for expanding Mike. My younger has estranged from absolutely everyone including friends and is full of such rage that it's breathtaking. She is fifty two. A relative poked her recently without telling me and this set off an absolute storm of abuse directed at me. I have lost all hope of a relationship with her.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-86357881427237664402022-08-20T17:14:16.609-02:302022-08-20T17:14:16.609-02:30Good thinking Debbie, I stopped the news a while b...Good thinking Debbie, I stopped the news a while back though I do watch just a little bit at the end of the day on world events. And I admit to sneaking a peak at the Trump Circus.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-89471727610906950782022-08-20T17:12:50.432-02:302022-08-20T17:12:50.432-02:30Dependence for sure, I cringe at the thought. Heml...Dependence for sure, I cringe at the thought. Hemlock Society anyone?<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-78868993505405664592022-08-20T17:11:23.919-02:302022-08-20T17:11:23.919-02:30Thanks Tom, yes excellent post on yours too, the p...Thanks Tom, yes excellent post on yours too, the practicalities of it all.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-52210184147865583242022-08-20T17:06:49.921-02:302022-08-20T17:06:49.921-02:30We are fortunate in that our relationships with bo...We are fortunate in that our relationships with both daughters remain "special." The oldest is in a marriage and her husband has literally never worked. (She's 49 and he's a little older and they known each other since elementary school.) She has depression and self-confidence issues, but has a job she loves as the local children's' librarian at the county public library. The youngest has a rough relationship with her son which we see as partly due to her over-bearing parenting. She is anxious and over-confident. <br /><br />We tread lightly and listen with both and help as needed. Mike Goadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01909276588431011926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-46915468749474650642022-08-20T12:38:46.756-02:302022-08-20T12:38:46.756-02:30Funny you should ask. I just did a post on what we...Funny you should ask. I just did a post on what we should fear ... but in a practical way, not in your more emotional way. Come to think of it, the emotional way is much more terrifying. May the darkness recede.Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-17136600917531825312022-08-20T12:22:15.934-02:302022-08-20T12:22:15.934-02:30Hi Debbie, yes me too. I dread being even a little...Hi Debbie, yes me too. I dread being even a little burden now in my really bad days. "Second Childhood" we called senility in Ireland, my beloved grand-da had it.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-7130715239215438212022-08-20T12:21:09.853-02:302022-08-20T12:21:09.853-02:30I am so sorry Mike to hear about your siblings. I ...I am so sorry Mike to hear about your siblings. I too am an eldest and I don't wish to outlive any of them. I was using the word special in a different sense as I've explained elsewhere.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-87679713571240280012022-08-20T12:19:26.475-02:302022-08-20T12:19:26.475-02:30I love what your daughter says, David and I've...I love what your daughter says, David and I've clarified more in some of my responses to the "special" remark. I don't consider myself as such but in the eyes of an estranged child I had a tiny morsel of hope, now trashed. Well done on your preservation of yourself :)<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-38813359759620746142022-08-20T12:17:44.283-02:302022-08-20T12:17:44.283-02:30Losing independence, yes, that would be my number ...Losing independence, yes, that would be my number 1 too Jackie. <br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-54790249677053483502022-08-20T12:17:02.955-02:302022-08-20T12:17:02.955-02:30I'd imagine this is very expensive Ramana and ...I'd imagine this is very expensive Ramana and I certainly couldn't afford it. but yes, I agree it is an excellent solution.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-35669719019596350932022-08-20T12:16:01.442-02:302022-08-20T12:16:01.442-02:30I hear your Charlotte, I watch only a little news,...I hear your Charlotte, I watch only a little news, particularly these days the circus that is the USA and hold my breath as civil war down there seems inevitable. The gob-smacking ignorance of their citizens (not all by a long shot, don't get me wrong) will have a huge toll on their country. This cult of Trump is very, very powerful and here in Canada we are far too close to it.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-66056783492715421972022-08-20T12:13:01.283-02:302022-08-20T12:13:01.283-02:30Me too River, or sharing with an awful bore or bei...Me too River, or sharing with an awful bore or being forced to play nicely with the others and eat with them.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-83289302464643226412022-08-20T12:12:14.232-02:302022-08-20T12:12:14.232-02:30Oh I don't consider myself special but I fancy...Oh I don't consider myself special but I fancy at times Daughter and Niece consider me as such but who knows. I was slam-dunked by my estranged child in the nastiest way and this triggered the special remark. I birthed her and nurtured her, etc. etc.<br />XO<br />WWW Wisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-92053084773686213582022-08-20T12:10:32.099-02:302022-08-20T12:10:32.099-02:30This happened to a very dear older friend of mine....This happened to a very dear older friend of mine. Her phone out of reach and no one found her for 4 days.<br />But doc said it was quick. So there's that.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-85237488253463846242022-08-19T22:32:19.044-02:302022-08-19T22:32:19.044-02:30I fear senility and being a burden to my daughter....I fear senility and being a burden to my daughter. Debbie V.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04318603077035734786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-80150131292634733382022-08-19T22:31:24.229-02:302022-08-19T22:31:24.229-02:30What do I fear as I age?
1. Outliving my siblin...What do I fear as I age? <br /><br />1. Outliving my siblings. I'm the oldest. The next two in age went this year, one to COVID in September, the other just a couple of months ago to very painful cancer. I am in better health, I think, than the other three.<br />2. A painful, lingering demise. The sister who died from cancer went quick, bout, oh, it was SO painful.<br /><br />I don't see myself as particularly special but I've got some not-so-common interests and abilities that have drawn some local attention. Mike Goadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01909276588431011926noreply@blogger.com