tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post8290365884388082365..comments2024-03-27T13:32:06.780-02:30Comments on The Other Side of Eighty: The Advantage of Being OlderWisewebwomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-5759825204892627112010-12-06T12:01:49.801-03:302010-12-06T12:01:49.801-03:30Well said WWW. I'm starting to know the benefi...Well said WWW. I'm starting to know the benefits of more confidence and assertiveness already (though hopefully minus the trap of getting stuck in my ways).The Poet Laura-eatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07779308486569849157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-59952397545445143142010-12-06T00:03:18.007-03:302010-12-06T00:03:18.007-03:30Pauline:
I am careful with whom I share my prefere...Pauline:<br />I am careful with whom I share my preference for being alone!<br />I really really really enjoy my own company and so many don't understand this at all.<br />I think one has to have lived alone for quite some time to so thoroughly enjoy one's interior.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-87650984350838517922010-12-06T00:01:13.347-03:302010-12-06T00:01:13.347-03:30Sharon:
Yes, it is that enforced "less than&q...Sharon:<br />Yes, it is that enforced "less than" status which I find the most irritating of all.<br />I must try and gently suggest these singles tables, I think they would be a hoot...<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-58656882153051177942010-12-05T19:38:03.507-03:302010-12-05T19:38:03.507-03:30If I am ever privy to the planning of such occasio...If I am ever privy to the planning of such occasions, I will be sure to speak up for a singles table - it's a wonderful idea. I don't go to evening outings unless I go with someone else as I can't see well enough to drive at night but staying home alone doesn't make me feel lonely. I often much prefer it.Paulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14555472024981357622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-75707660726164052002010-12-05T19:04:59.532-03:302010-12-05T19:04:59.532-03:30You really struck a nerve with this post. It's...You really struck a nerve with this post. It's perversely reassuring to my anti-social nature to see so many others who would rather pass than be the object of a couples well-meaning charity. I never considered a "singles" table and think it is a great idea. If I choose to attend as a single, I want it to be with self-confidence and equal status.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02852119592451618703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-22633302393613790762010-12-05T13:38:17.319-03:302010-12-05T13:38:17.319-03:30T:
You got me thinking, I've rarely enjoyed su...T:<br />You got me thinking, I've rarely enjoyed such events. In my drinking days I got plastered, in my non-drinking times even with partner I felt I was an alien.<br />Not my kind of thing at all. I just hate congo-lines and those awful Texan line-dancing efforts with everyone kicking up on their own beat.<br />I am a recluse at heart too :D<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-75249892344966066452010-12-05T11:50:52.490-03:302010-12-05T11:50:52.490-03:30I've never been to a dinner dance in my life, ...I've never been to a dinner dance in my life, WWW - alone or otherwise....anti-social is my middle name. ;-)<br /><br />I do understand how you feel about going to one such "do" as a single though, because I'd feel it, even as a "double".Twilighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14138621610593773784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-8073593158081834252010-12-05T10:07:51.341-03:302010-12-05T10:07:51.341-03:30Jerry:
I agree. You got me thinking I should have ...Jerry:<br />I agree. You got me thinking I should have the occasional lunch party for "strays", older people who are single in my community.<br />H'm.<br />change starts with me 'n all that.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-51295020743094409862010-12-05T10:06:11.447-03:302010-12-05T10:06:11.447-03:30Nora:
It is not a good time for anyone, partnered ...Nora:<br />It is not a good time for anyone, partnered or not. Too many memories and it breeds a form of dissatisfaction too in a lot of people.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-72208781232957639922010-12-05T10:05:04.926-03:302010-12-05T10:05:04.926-03:30Chris:
Ah, the Walton's Mountain Syndrome hits...Chris:<br />Ah, the Walton's Mountain Syndrome hits a lot of people at this time of the year. <br />We can often fantasize that company is better than being alone.<br />I think we all need to embrace our own solitudes.<br />But I agree, some people just never do and pine for what might have been.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-74719758531769834592010-12-05T09:27:32.216-03:302010-12-05T09:27:32.216-03:30It is almost as if the notion of 'being single...It is almost as if the notion of 'being single' is an attribute of youth. I fear that many still raise their eyebrow at being older and being single -- and thus don't accommodate that idea. It is really kind of silly.<br /><br />This is truly felt during holidays. Sad.Jerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04278403041887060649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-4461035749602779452010-12-05T02:27:06.511-03:302010-12-05T02:27:06.511-03:30I agree with the last comment and feel quite lonel...I agree with the last comment and feel quite lonely at the holidays as it is forced upon me loneliness.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-64063063674807618062010-12-04T20:45:47.885-03:302010-12-04T20:45:47.885-03:30There is nothing lonelier in my mind than the holi...<i>There is nothing lonelier in my mind than the holiday season banquets full of couples and the solitary man or woman sitting at a table while everyone around them dances.</i><br /><br />So true. But, as I read your post, I couldn’t help but feel for those who are truly lonely at home – and not just for the holiday season. Christmas – with or without banquets – can make those who are alone feel more isolated and depressed (for lack of a better word). It is good to spend time home alone by the fire with a good book, but for anyone whose is alone and graving company, I suspect that it quickly grows old. <br /><br />Your suggestion of a singles table is a great one. It would be helpful in more ways than one.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15346117937049835946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-90663120763802313532010-12-04T19:53:09.109-03:302010-12-04T19:53:09.109-03:30Lori:
I honestly don't believe it has anything...Lori:<br />I honestly don't believe it has anything to do with that at all. It is just thoughtlessness or fear of doing something different with the singles.<br />Believe me, I am no threat to anyone (and wouldn't want the husbands anyway!<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-53461239526054117792010-12-04T19:51:25.074-03:302010-12-04T19:51:25.074-03:30Helen:
Oh so many times this has happened to me to...Helen:<br />Oh so many times this has happened to me too, I am so grateful I don't have to partner with an ongoing drone. Silence would be preferable!<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-40297849162966927152010-12-04T19:50:34.158-03:302010-12-04T19:50:34.158-03:30Freda:
Yes in my time too, there were lots of comp...Freda:<br />Yes in my time too, there were lots of company events and I am so glad I don't have to suffer these anymore, with our without the escort.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-35168672587225496352010-12-04T19:49:46.788-03:302010-12-04T19:49:46.788-03:30Zuleme:
I do believe that couples (who usually org...Zuleme:<br />I do believe that couples (who usually organize such events) give it any thought at all.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-2896805435519502512010-12-04T19:39:08.251-03:302010-12-04T19:39:08.251-03:30What about that old bone that couples are more com...What about that old bone that couples are more comfortable when singles aren't buzzing around? Does it still have meat on it? Sounds like from your comments, there is still an unstated tension.Too bad.Lorinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-84325704215108961312010-12-04T19:31:20.742-03:302010-12-04T19:31:20.742-03:30Standing in a buffet line once upon a time ago, I ...Standing in a buffet line once upon a time ago, I was feeling sorry for myself because I was alone. In line behind me was a group of people. Unseen by the loudly talking<br />man was obviously his wife who was silently mouthing, 'shut up, shut up, shut up', and I thought to myself; "I get to eat alone."<br />HelenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-62929874490937187022010-12-04T18:33:33.859-03:302010-12-04T18:33:33.859-03:30Staying in with a good book sounds a lot more fun....Staying in with a good book sounds a lot more fun. In my working years there were many church events I was expected to attend, so it is a relief now to be able to stay put.Fredahttp://www.freda.org.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-88018813883395644652010-12-04T17:28:33.374-03:302010-12-04T17:28:33.374-03:30I agree they missed the chance to set up a singles...I agree they missed the chance to set up a singles table. A restaurant we like here has a very popular bar where singles from the village often come in for dinner. It's the most popular place to sit.Sharyn Ekberghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11987304898246173619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-27807844335047518612010-12-04T16:59:10.007-03:302010-12-04T16:59:10.007-03:30Ah, Marcia, that old dough drying excuse!
That &q...Ah, Marcia, that old dough drying excuse!<br /><br />That "NO" thing has a lovely sound, doesn't it?<br /><br />I guess being able to be totally selective with friendships is such a bonus!!!<br /><br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-19514219376318568382010-12-04T15:57:23.663-03:302010-12-04T15:57:23.663-03:30The good thing for me at my age is that I no longe...The good thing for me at my age is that I no longer want to go anyway, whether with someone or by myself. By the way, your Christmas turtles will be in the mail to you as soon as I can get the dough to dry.marciamayohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18185069576683872041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-45541488496792131392010-12-04T15:38:09.543-03:302010-12-04T15:38:09.543-03:30GM:
I wonder too, could it be some loners resent c...GM:<br />I wonder too, could it be some loners resent company?<br />I think the fact they're out and about (and not ordering in) shows a keenness to socialize, don't you?<br />My father never tired of talking about his "lunch bunch" at a restaurant in Cork where he ate every day. It was a constantly changing cast at a large table. He loved it.<br />XO<br />WWWWisewebwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15281689872840844191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14874528.post-4309940867306896932010-12-04T14:50:26.683-03:302010-12-04T14:50:26.683-03:30I have not been to a dinner dance for years - than...I have not been to a dinner dance for years - thankfully.<br /><br />This brings to mind an overnight stay I had in an hotel in Wexford some years ago. I was alone and in need of an evening meal. When I went to the dining room I was shown to a table on my own. It was one of two rows of four small tables, each with a setting for one facing the table in the other row, just far enough away to prevent conversation. Why oh why, did they not push the tables together and allow the eight people to chat and enjoy the meal together.Grannymarhttp://grannymar.com/blognoreply@blogger.com