Thursday, May 15, 2008

My Rules of Life---Part Two


EMBRACE SOLITUDE - FIND A PASSION.

It seems to me, in this world I inhabit, that I am perfectly content with my alone status 95% of the time. But that other 5% wherein I dwell can be fraught with loneliness, neediness, the poor mes, and the nobody ever wants me syndrome.

I was swimming around in the Chinese Astrological Charts today and found an interesting paragraph pertaining to me, I was born in the year of the sheep/ram/goat, as was my elder daughter, interestingly enough. So here goes:

Goats often do not fare well in romantic liaisons. They are very high strung and tend to feel insecure. They are worriers. To quell their uncertainties, Goats need to feel loved and admired at all times. Goats are extremely sensitive and will fret over the most trifling things. Conflict within a relationship will make Goats retreat further into their minds or physically remove themselves from the scene.


There goes that high strung thing again. And I do worry - about the teensiest, tiniest things. Never the big issues. And I am the STAR when it comes to retreating. I am hopeless at conflict.

But to get back to embracing solitude. I do. I can honestly say I've never been bored. And this is in a world where I rarely watch TV and don't have one in this house. I fill my time with reading, writing, knitting, learning, the web, blogging, planning and plotting - oh just about anything. And I love socializing but not empty socializing, there has to be meat in it. I make room in my life for many friends and keep up with them all, along with family.

I'm very happy inside my own head and I think the secret of happy solitude is/are passion(s).

14 comments:

  1. I'm with you there, www. I'm quite happy with my own company most of the time. And as you suggest, because I'm passionate about so many things. Vacuous, fill-the-time socialising is not for me. But I do feel lonely for a little while when Jenny has gone off somewhere - before I relax and enjoy my own self again. The Goat sounds disarmingly like me - perhaps I'm high strung after all.

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  2. Hello! Popped over from Pondside's blog to visit. Whilst I'm in a good relationship I do agree that you need to be happy in your own head and you seem to have found plenty to make you happy. Good for you.

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  3. you and i are very similar in this regard.

    well, well said. i was nodding emphatically throughout.

    now i'm dizzy.

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  4. I heard from a shaman, a ong time ago Nick, that to be truly happy in a relationship one must be comfortable with one's own vibrations.
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    Welcome, Chrish: and it does take a lot of work!
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    Laurie, twins under the skin ;^)
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    XO
    WWW

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  5. I'm not well versed in Chinese astrology, but often think about how the "year of" thing might mesh with western astro lore.

    You don't come over as highly strung, WWW. Your written personality comes over as very level-headed. I have stumbled upon blogs written by who I see as highly-strung bloggers - and never stay very long!

    Next week I'll e-mail you and ask if you'd like me to look at your birth chart. (I'd need date, time and place of birth if so.) I'll be a bit busy for the next few days though - family visitor in town, but will be in touch later, if you so wish. :-)

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  6. Popped back to say how much I laughed at your comment... now, you SHOULD have got money for that!

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  7. Hi T:
    Oh I've worked very hard on the high strung bit and have reached a space of calm today which I'm so grateful for.
    I'd love you to do the chart. Let me know and I will send you the details. Wow! I'm looking forward to that!
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    Chris:
    Yup! Big mistake!
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    XO
    WWW

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  8. I've been by myself for so much of my life that I sometimes have trouble making chit chat. I am not saying that the following pertains to me, but...
    The majority of Americans are extraverted (about 75%), but the majority of gifted children appear to be introverted (about 60%), and the percentage of introverts seems to increase with IQ -Silverman 1986

    This Atlantic Monthly article on introverts was interesting.

    Don't talk unless you can improve the silence. -Vermont Proverb

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  9. Welcome NE!
    Idle chatter I have trouble with also, I consider it an awful waste of time. Your stats are very interesting and I will read the article.
    Thank you!

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  10. Hi WWW

    I'm the wrong person - you know how anti-social I am.

    xxx

    Pants

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  11. Of course you're not 'wrong' Pants, you're perfect for who you are!
    XO
    WWW

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  12. Wow. Who knew there were so many of us?! Thanks for writing about this, WWW.

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  13. I didn't choose to live the life I do but have embraced solitude quite well. I suppose I learned early on to be happy in my skin.

    I enjoy mixed compamy, good chat and plenty of laughter.

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  14. I'm with you on all of the above GM and we can't be happy with others until we're happy with ourselves....
    XO
    WWW

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