Friday, August 13, 2010

Date Rape is a Hoot.


Nephew: wats the best chat up line???
22 hours ago · Comment ·LikeUnlike R******D**** likes this.
E**** N***** ‎"Excuse me, do you think this rag smells like chloroform?"
21 hours ago · LikeUnlike · 2 people
Nephew and M**** C***** like this.
Me: I can't even list the amount of WRONGS in that appalling statement...
16 hours ago · LikeUnlike ·
K**** H*****: That is quite possibly the best 1 i've ever heard e****!!!
10 hours ago · LikeUnlike
D***** F**** Are u retarded cos u look special to me
2 hours ago · LikeUnlike
T***O'D****: guy puts a cold bottle against girl...girl reacts...sori bt ur so hot had 2cul u dwn sum how!


Above is an exchange on FaceBook over the last day. I italicized my own comment. The reason I posted a comment?

The originator of the original query is my nephew and the responses are from his friends. They are all around 21 years of age.

I am completely disgusted, discouraged and dismayed that this is how he and his friends feel about women. And that none addressed the comment of his aunt.

(1) Women need to be rendered unconscious to allow men to do whatever they choose with them?
(2) Women are not human and therefore not in need of any respect?
(3) Separate rules would apply for their sisters and mothers?
(4) Have any of them heard of date rape?
(5) Have they even attempted to think about themselves being victims of an incapitating drug administered by a stranger?

And on. I'm sooooo tired of all this.

I'm completely disheartened that this is a younger male relative (university student). My friends, this is how he and his peers are devolving.

Hello Gaia? Shrug us off. Right now.

13 comments:

  1. Pretty pathetic. Confirms for me why I do not belong to Facebook. At least I can control what appears in my blog! :-)

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  2. Surely this was all meant as a joke...they are trying to be funny.

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  3. @Twain:
    I am sickened.
    @VP:
    I'm on FB because of my many, many younger family members that I like to keep in touch with and that are scattered around the world.
    @Frances:
    Rape jokes are never funny. Escpecially to those who have been raped.
    XO
    WWW

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  4. They say young men these days have a better attitude towards women. I'm not so sure about that. I've heard a few hair-raising exchanges like the one you mention. The male tradition of controlling and manipulating women won't disappear in a hurry.

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  5. Nick:
    I am consistently sickened by their attitude to both women and gays. And the exchange is much longer and more 'lolling' than the shorter one I posted.
    Blech.
    XO
    WWW

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  6. Not good, WWW, not good at all.

    Trying to be optimistic - are they simply "showing off" to one another as kids do - trying to appear "cool". Though 21-year olds are hardly kids - the same age group were flying fighter planes and dying for freedom within my lifetime.

    at least they didn't come back at you with abuse, that at least is in their favour....but a very small mercy considering it's your relative.

    Rap "music" may have a bit to do with these attitudes too - lyrics are dreadful in most cases, and this age group seem to admire Rap.

    Not a good sign for the future.
    :-(

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  7. T:
    It depresses me utterly to see such misogyny and contempt. Like they don't get it at all.
    They're drunk all the time and take series of pics of themselves lying down in odd places stoned out of their gourds and in some cases holding each others' naughty bits.
    Hell. Handbasket.

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  8. Wisewebwoman, I do so hope this is a joke. If they were younger I'd put it all down to immature boys' sniggering, pretending they can actually make a girl be interested in them. But at 21 and while at University that is possibly a forlorn hope. Still, heavens above, this is surely not how they would really speak and act?

    No, I can't believe it. What happened to the last 50 years and emancipation of the sexes?

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  9. Friko:
    Oh they would think they are joking alright but it's the insensitivity of it all and the lack of any kind of enlightenment in all the responses which continued on for a long time after my post.
    Rape can never be a joke.
    XO
    WWW

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  10. I too agree rape can never be a joke. The case you make above is one of the reason so many young women drink straight from bottles these days - it is more difficult to add drugs to a bottle and it can be carried about more easily than a glass.

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  11. If your nephew is like many people his age he probably has several hundred FB "friends". But from your excerpt only a few of them seem to "like" the offensive so-called chat up line. And the later suggested chat-up line -- an unexpected cold beer on bare skin -- doesn't sound very articulate or clever, but neither is it sinister or unpleasant. Just kid stuff. I'm guessing that most of your nephew's friends looking at this have thoughtlessly ignored the first post, but something will have deterred most of them from clicking the "like" button.

    If your nephew were a bad lot he certainly wouldn't "friend" you (to use the new verb) and he could have easily deleted your comment. He must respect your views or he wouldn't leave them for his friends to see.

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  12. Yeah, I had the same experience coming across one of my great-nephew's pages. Postings full of obscenities - both from the nephew and the male and female commentors.

    He joined the service just over a year ago (his "friends" who were also supposed to enlist disappeared - LOL). In his case, I think it was the service or worse.

    When he isn't posting he spends his time scamming $$$ from dad.

    Everytime I hear about how we should honor our service members I think of him.

    Once he found out that family members were reading his page he made it password protected.

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