Sunday, May 13, 2012

He said, she said.....

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I don't know about you but I need to be reminded, and often, of the quality of the most obvious of things. Like conversations. With friends or family or whathaveyou.

I had one of the best conversations last week. A friend dropped in to chat, as he sometimes does. He says it's right aisy to talk with me. While I assured him that yes, I find it right aisy to talk with him too, for hours sometimes.

And I noticed when he left, I was uplifted, happier, more positive in my outlook. This was affirmed to me when he emailed me that night and said he felt twenty years younger and the only conclusion he could imagine was the fact that he had talked to me.

Now I am no guru and contrary to my avatar, not all that wise either. My own conclusion is this:

I am convinced that the best conversations are about ideas and dreams and personal experience and history.

It goes like this:

"Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about other people."

Now if I could be mindful of this in each and every conversation I have I would be truly wise indeed.

30 comments:

  1. A good old chat warms the heart, like sunshine warms the wrapping!

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  2. Dying art, WWW. Dying art being slowly murdered by smartphones, texting, Facebook etc.

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  3. CC:
    yes, I need frequent reminders.
    XO
    WWW

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  4. T:
    I disagree with grace :)
    I think people are hungering for F2F contact, nothing can sub for this.
    XO
    WWW

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  5. That expression is the cliche du jour. The last one that stays with me is" "Perception is reality."
    I've heard all my life that cliches are dumb; boring, unoriginal - so cliched!
    It's been my experience that cliches are wonderful; deep, wise - and so cliched!
    They serve as mnemonic devices to help up keep our hands on reality as we make our way through the world.
    My mother, still going strong at 92, is the mistress of cliches. To this day, when she brings the subject up, she always makes the same cliched comment: Cliches are cliches because they are true.
    That's a perception of my reality, and yes, talking about ideas is so cliched!

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  6. I agree, the best conversations are about ideas. In other words they're creative and imaginative, they reinterpret the world around us. Conversations that merely observe and criticise are deadly.

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  7. "I am convinced that the best conversations are about ideas and dreams and personal experience and history". Well put,WWW.

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  8. Your protests to the contrary, you are a wise person and this post just demonstrated that.

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  9. I love to have conversations like you describe and don't have enough of them. I find this a great loss in my life. It is wonderful to meet people who are capable of having them and are willing to share their time and ideas with you. You are lucky to have such a friend. xox

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  10. I enjoy a nice chat. The best conversations I ever had were with my mother. These days I have good phone conversations with my sister and a couple of friends and occasionally with the bachelor friend who comes over from time to time.
    I do like free wheeling informal conversations in small groups!

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  11. Conversation with loved ones (or even just liked ones) is good for the soul. There's nothing quite like it.

    I don't think it's a dying art; we just have a lot more ways to do it now, and some of them have taken the place of face-to-face chats. But only partly.

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  12. There's nothing more rejuvenating than a conversation that leaps between people like comets firing. They let us know how marvelous words can be!

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  13. Marc:
    Our whole lives are cliches, the wisdom of the ages precedes us!
    XO
    WWW

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  14. Nick:
    I'm striving to stay with elevating my conversation!
    XO
    WWW

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  15. Aha Ramana,
    Your words will get you everywhere!
    XO
    WWW

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  16. Irene:
    I think we should start cafe circles where only such conversations are allowed!
    XO
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  17. Oh Hattie,
    We'd get along like a house on fire!
    XO
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  18. Stan:
    There's nothing like the spoken word with others but I agree, I've had charming texts and FB interactions with some.
    XO
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  19. Pauline:
    Especially between kindred spirits, I had such a one with a passenger in my car yesterday.
    XO
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  20. Oh Oh...some of the best conversations I have had were with my dog :O I think I may have to worry what that says about me....;D LOL

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  21. Anon:
    You are not alone, plus my dog thinks I am brilliant.
    If only I was the kind of person my dog thinks I am :)
    XO
    WWW

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  22. I think you're totally right about the uplifting and inspiring nature of a good conversation. No question. Your case is proven, again and again, everytime I go to a writing convention or have a good long talk with a like-minded friend over coffee :)

    ~ Rhonda Parrish

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  23. I, too, value the long conversations with another. I haven't had the opportunity to experience as many as I once did for most of my life and I miss them, but like-minded people die.

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  24. Rhonda:
    Welcome!
    Yes and isn't it extraordinary how third parties do not enter such conversations? Just love of books or movies or travel, etc.
    XO
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  25. Joared:
    And this is why it is so important to find other kindred spirits out there if we can. A book club has done this for me as have some support groups.
    XO
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  26. Yes, I enjoy a writing group and contacts continuing through my part time work. Just not attracted to local senior center games and crafts.

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  27. Still believing that one day you'll drop in here in Colorado and we'll have a nice long chat. Let me know and I'll put the kettle on to boil.

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