Sunday, April 08, 2018
Things I Don't Miss
Many talk of aging as something to be feared, the many losses: the loss of vitality. health, the so-called good old days, etc., but seriously, us oldies need to count all the things we don't miss, shall we?
(1)Menstruation, I menstruated for 40 years.
(2)Fear of pregnancy. My last scare? I was 52, thinking I was way beyond it. See 1.
(4)Getting up early, going to work and pretending I didn't have a hangover. See 3.
(7)Stilettos - seriously, what were we thinking?
(8)Make up - nothing like painting your face before throwing yourself out the door. Not.
(9)Hairdo maintenance - the cost alone, knowing presentability for the male gaze meant my employment or not.
(10)Performing femininity see 7,8,9
(11)A household to run plus two jobs to keep it all together. Single mom. 2 kids.
(12)Dating - see 10.
(13)Being always afraid of men when I was out alone running or coming home on a quiet street or late at night. And even of the male cops patrolling - with cause. Now I feel safe for the first time in a secure building with a well-lit parking lot, a resident administrator and emergency buttons.
(14)Being always broke, money never quite stretching to needs, never mind wants.
(15)Stress about all of the above.
I'm sure there are loads more.
I'd love to hear yours.