Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Worry


“Why worry be happy” as the not-so-old song says.

I pretty much embraced this philosophy over the last few years.

I got to the age where I realized that none of my worries ever actually happened.

Wrestling with the thoughts of an outcome I could do absolutely nothing about seemed to be a useless occupation in my mind.

I used to worry a lot, you see. Worry about my kids, my relationships, money, my health, your health, your depression, my depression, the plumbing.

What a complete and utter waste of time when I could be knitting a pair of socks.

Or just being in the now, enjoying that pink sunset.

I was stealing precious time from myself, and all the worry in the world wouldn’t get me the desired result of anything I was worrying about.

So I virtually abandoned it. Worry that is.

Life will run its course with or without me.

I’ve never been in charge.

Which is all in the way of saying: I had my appointment with the eye surgeon. And it was a classic good news and bad news scenario.

The bad news was I have hypertension in my eyeballs which can lead to glaucoma.

The good news is that I have extraordinarily thick corneas which research has shown prevent the development of glaucoma. So no immediate surgery or medication.

I am scheduled for more tests in the hospital about six months from now.

And seriously, I didn’t worry.

And thank you all for the show of hands and hearts.

22 comments:

  1. Good for you getting over the incessant worrying habit. Unluckily I'm still a big worrier however much I tell myself it's a total waste of time. One of these days I'll mellow....

    Glad the eye news wasn't bad. But does that mean you have a general problem of hypertension that should be addressed? Personally I found my blood pressure was slightly raised because I was drinking so much caffeine. I cut the caffeine intake, BP went down to normal.

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  2. Oh, that must be a relief, WWW. You know now what the problem is and that there's no immediate danger. I'm pleased for ya!

    It's not easy to get out of the worrying habit. The best way is to keep the mind well occupied - as you mentioned, knitting socks is a good way (though that would be a worry to me all on its own! I'll stick to knitting a blog. ;-)

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  3. Is there a reason why you have hypertension in your eyeballs? A medical condition that could bring it on? Has your thyroid been checked?

    As a rule I don't worry much, except when it concern my physical health. When I think there's something seriously wrong, but I'm not sure and I have to wait to find out. I worry then.

    For the rest I try to live in the moment. I don't knit socks, but I'm good at staring into the middle distance and letting my thoughts wander into nothingness.

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  4. What you have learned to do is good for your well being.I'm speaking from experience.

    I put your blog on my follow list. I don't know why I hadn't done so before this.Must have been caused by an under active memory.

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  5. Nick:
    It's a biofeedback technique basically until you get the hang of it.
    You know you've conquered it when you start to laugh when the thoughts pop up.
    XO
    WWW

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  6. T:
    It surely is.
    We all need to laugh at ourselves more, methinks!
    XO
    WWW

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  7. GSW:
    No, just something that the delights of old age do to us. Nothing to do with HBP or thyroid.
    Good for you and not worrying.
    XO
    WWW

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  8. GFB:
    Thank you and I just knew you were a member of the What! - Me Worry? Club!
    XO
    WWW

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  9. Well I'm glad your eyes are par for the course. Doctors are good at that good news/bad news thing, aren't they?

    I'm pretty good at banishing worry, escept at 3AM. Damned if it doesn't tie me in knots in the wee hours. And over the stupidest things. Maybe I'll try keeping an unfinished sock by my bed...

    Love the Einstein quote!

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  10. I have been away for a little while so I have missed what has been going on with your eyes... The updated news is good. I am glad you are not worrying about what might happen? Like you say, what is the point, it will not change the out come.. What a brilliant philosophy. If Only I could practice that too... :)

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  11. I'm glad that the news is good for the moment :-) And now that the doctors know about it, they can keep an eye out (pun intended...) and hopefully stop things getting worse.

    I developed the no-worries philosophy around my wedding - there are two types of things which can go wrong. One is the type that I can do something about. In which case, I do something about it and fix it, so there is no need to worry about it. The other is something that I can do nothing about. In which case, as I can't do anything about it, there is no point in worrying about it!

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  12. Annie:
    I once did a poem about that 3.00 a.m. thing, I must dig it out. Once a year I get that now, just wake up and stew over things that happened 30 years ago. A form of hallucination, I believe...LOL
    XO
    WWW

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  13. Nevin:
    I'm not so joking about the socks. You should try it. Wild ones for the twins maybe?
    XO
    WWW

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  14. Jo:
    Good for you, you are so wise for one so young!!
    XO
    WWW

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  15. I wish I was better at not worrying but I tend to be the type who does and has to really work to let things and outcomes go. I know worry does nothing to fix anything except maybe the initial get to the doctor or pay the bill or change the budget, but after that it's worthless. It's just hard to release it.

    Good luck with the rest of your results. Sounds like your corneas will stand you in good stead.

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  16. Ah, another of those 'aging' things....I'm glad it was nothing worse. Thank heaven for your robust corneas!

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  17. Rain:
    I think it happens over time, where the desire to stop the pointlessness of it overrides the compulsion to do it.
    Thanks for your kind thoughts!
    XO
    WWW

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  18. RJA:
    There's no end to the wonderful surprises, is there!
    XO
    WWW

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  19. Glad it has all worked out well.

    Years ago I was a worrier. I worried until my tummy was in tight knots and feeling ill. Such a waste of time, half the things never happened. Now I spend the time laughing at myself. Much better!

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  20. GM:
    How true. Now what stuff actually happened, seriously?
    laughing at oneself is the best medicine!!
    XO
    WWW

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  21. I am so pleased I found you!!!
    Worry, I am better then I use to be - but sometimes it just happens.

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  22. OWJ:
    Worry is just, and I quote:
    False
    Experience
    Appearing
    Real
    Never were there truer words!
    XO
    WWW

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