Friday, December 26, 2025

For Don: The Real Meaning of Christmas.

Don will never read this. He is basically fairly illiterate. He comes from a very well do to family who have given up on him through many rehabs, handouts, and giving up between bouts of giving in.

When he lived here I gave him the odd job of cleaning off my car from snow and ice. And doing a fine job if it was in the mornings, which it usually was. And gave him the odd handout and then stopped realizing I was enabling him. He often took my garbage out to the big bin and I'd slip him a five. If he was passing, he took my groceries up from my car. There was a great kindness in him. Sometimes he refused a tip, waving me off.

Unfortunately, or fortunately, his behaviour when he was drunk with other tenants in the community rooms was often aggressive and confrontational and threatening. Too many times. So his tenancy was terminated. And the management found him another placement in a building they have for troubled and addicts. He was brokenhearted leaving here, last September. But most of those who were involved in community activities were relieved. Understandably.

I open my door today and in the hall with my boots was a stuffed green bag and a card.

From Don.

It was packed to the brim with either gifts he had been given - warm gloves, a beanie, socks, soaps, deodorant, toothpicks, toothpaste, toothbrush, or freebies from motel rooms. You get the picture. Small packages of treats, a travel kit.

And I broke down and cried. 

This is one of the the most wonderful gifts I've ever been given. And as I write this, I'm still bawling my eyes out. The time, the effort, the lovely card, his access to our building. His walk from where he lived.

He had no way with words did Don. He was a pretty broken man from the booze and whatever pain he suffered in his life. I will never forget him.

You're a star Don. And a gentleman. And you will never know it.





18 comments:

  1. A beautiful piece that gave me a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes. I would love Don. He is my kind of guy. I'm glad you've shown him love.

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    1. It was an incredible effort and gesture and I am hoping he's found recovery, however slight. I had glimpses of his true nature which was kindness personified.
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  2. That's the nicest Christmas story I've heard. It's also a very sad story. The disease known as alcoholism is a shocker.
    I hope your Christmas was nice.

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    1. It is a dreadful disease Andrew and I have no idea how old Don is, he had looked 80 but I think he was 60, a savage life, much of it homeless, I would think.
      Christmas was quiet with storms and blizzards. We keep deferring the feasting.
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    1. Me too, Sue, as you read. Still leaking a bit of tears and hoping he's OK.
      Season's greetings.
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  4. It's so sweet that Don remembered you and the kindnesses you showed him. A lovely man under the alcoholism.

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    1. Exactly River, his true nature shining through. As in most alcoholics, often too sensitive for this world and alleviate it with booze and drugs.
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  5. Alcoholism is a beast. sad and so sweet story.

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    1. A beast for sure Charlotte. Destroying so many lives.
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  6. Oh my! that got to me, like a circle from you to him and back again. You truly touched his life. Wonderful!

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    1. As he touched mine Marge. I was shocked at this generosity and worry a bit about him without this knitwear to keep him warm.
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  7. Kindness has a way of repaying itself and it looks like goodness came home to you. Bravo to both you and Don.

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    1. I never viewed myself as being kind to him. But I did give him the dignity of doing some work for me and paying him for it. I think win-win there.
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  8. Clearly Don wanted to reciprocate and thank you for your kindness to him. That's very touching.

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  9. Very moving Debra as he has so very little.
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  10. I love this story because there is so much tender warmth on display from both of you.

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    1. There was and is Kylie. "For the least among us" need validating and kindness too. No matter how challenging it can be sometimes.
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