I remember reading a book a long time ago by a psychiatrist. I was really into personal development and improvement then. I gave that up a long time ago when I realized my own journey is unique and can't be based on any guru blowing off about his or her life experience and encouraging others to follow in the same footsteps. Well no, that would be merely a distraction. I follow my own path, read Tao in the mornings and reject or embrace any suggestions.
But I digress. That book I read was summarized as follows:
Why do we all behave as if we have 200 years to live?
For of course we don't. And we delude ourselves constantly.
For instance: Middle aged?
Most put middle age as between 50 and 60 and even higher.
But the average lifespan in Canada is 82.30 years. (US is only 78)
So truly middle age is 41 in Canada and only 39 in the US.
Imagine those turning 40 announcing they are now middle-aged!
So what is old age?
Most of my friends died between the ages of 52 and 70. From various causes. So let's say the average age of death in my circle (and I believe it was wider than 'normal') is 61, depending on the number of friends one has it could be higher. (So their middle age was 30+ )
So old age, to me, generously, would be anything over the 3 score and 10 meaning 70+.
Extreme old age would be 80+.
I have 4-1/2 years to get there, if I do. And I bear in mind disability and other challenges happen out of the blue. Three people I know now have dementia in different stages.
So what am I going to do with these last
What are you doing?
I assume here that my readers are all past middle age - meaning over 40. And many, like myself, have health challenges.