Scene: Restaurant.
He: Oh you got here early.Intermission.
Me: Yes
He: You should have called, come over to my place.
Me: I finished with the client early.
Chaste kiss.
He: Next time, let me know.
Me: Oh, I always have a book and also I have some workshop work. Ha.
He: You could do all that in my place.
Me: Well I wouldn’t, would I. We’d be too busy talking. Ha.
Share appetizer, dinner. Talk for 4 hours over 286 coffees.
He: Come back to my place now.
Me: OK.
Scene: His place.
Me (thinking): Gawd, he’s got my artwork on top of his stereo. Oh, look more over there on the bookshelf.
He: I love your artwork: see?
Me: I’m flattered
Me (thinking): Self: Can’t you think of something even remotely intelligent to say?
He: I’ll make tea, right?
Me: I’ll make it with you.
Intermission. Talk for another 2 hours. We never run out of conversation.
I need bathroom twice after 25 gallons of coffee and tea. He’s put out the guest towels. Sweet.
Me: I should get home, it’s late, the snow stopped.
He: I’d like if you stayed longer.
Me: I should go.
He: OK then.
Chaste kiss.
Me: Driving away.
He: Waving at door.
Me (thinking): Did I miss any cues? Should I have stayed on? How does one convert a chaste kiss to something else? Was that up to me or up to him?
If it was meant to be it would have happened, right?
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I think it was meant to be and I think it should have happened, you just need to be a little bit bolder the next time, Mary. There were enough clues there. When are you seeing this gentleman again? Why not ask him out for a date? I'm sure he'd love to go.
ReplyDeleteYes, sounds like there's something going on there. He was certainly keen for you to stay. What did his body language say? Reserved? Friendly? Enamoured? I think Finely is right, you should maybe have been a bit bolder, tried another kiss, whatever. And sure, ask him out, he can only say no.
ReplyDeleteOooh, love it! 3.30am dilemmas indeed!
ReplyDeleteHope you slept well on it ;-)
OOOOh! Send me his birth data and I'll tell ya! ;-)
ReplyDeleteAwards up at mine WWW ! :-)
Irene:
ReplyDeleteI suppose my big fear was that he would pull away, my biggest question was why didn't he try? I've answered now: same fear I had.
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Nick:
ReplyDeleteI would say open, he touched my arm quite a bit. I'm totally surprised at my age that my old insecurities would surface.
Yes. Next time.
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Anne:
ReplyDeleteTossed and turned quite a bit, as you can see by timeline.
I also noticed he dressed very well for me, even down to a leather newsboy hat which was awfully dashing.
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T:
ReplyDeleteYes I will, more will be revealed. On my way over to your place now!!
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ah, fun.... these dilemmas never ever lessen, do they?
ReplyDeletethere will be a next time. maybe soon. (i would have done the same thing you did, by the way. always been very cautious/clueless.)
I read this yesterday, before all those other wise comments, and I have been thinking about it. I think this guy is insecure about something, duh, but since you both like conversation, keep that going and eventually it will out what the problem is. Personally, I wouldn't be too forward. That can be scary for both of you. And I could claim to be the voice of experience, if not of success. The other night at dinner (my birthday dinner) I mentioned my four husbands. My son (the wit) said, "Is that all you had? It seemed like a lot more." So the advice from the expert is: keep talking, and I bet it will lead to OTHER THINGS.
ReplyDeleteLaurie:
ReplyDeleteOh there's a comfort in not being such a dork in this, you have the same cluelessness. Good word, BTW. I'm so long out of the game, and the last serious relationship he was a playa, so I'm extra cautious.
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Hello 20!
ReplyDeleteLOL on losing count of the husbands!!!
Good advice, interestingly enough my 22 year old niece, so wise, said exactly the same thing to me when I mentioned to her it would be nice to have a romance with this man. And she said "and kill this lovely friendship?"
The wisdom of youth can't be ignored.
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WWW - what a great evening!
ReplyDeleteQuite right to make him wait a while - he'll only appreciate you all the more.
Besides which men (however progressive they claim to be) never like it if a girl is too 'fast'. Luckily I've always been way too nervous to enter into any swift relationship anyway. 3-6 months tends to be about right and more likely to lead to something more tangible and lasting.
Well, you've had the advice from the good lady with four husbands, so here's some dubious council from the (not so) good man with four wives (well, five actually):
ReplyDeleteI agree with all the rest, but one proviso - you have reached a level of independence that is only achieved after years of soul searching and maturity. It can disappear in an instant. Do whatever comes naturally with this man or any other, but don't relinquish the leash of that independence - at least, not till there's a ring on your finger. And, of course, romance and friendship can be conjoined - though not if you're only 22 years old.
Meanwhile - just have fun!
Laura:
ReplyDeleteIt was very special. I had a lovely follow-up email from him too.
Who knows but I'll enjoy it while it floats!!
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RJA:
ReplyDeleteSeems to me the wife-count has gone up - have you divorced and remarried in the last wee while? :^)
I don't know whether I'm in the game of ring on the finger, though. But a loving relationship I'm always open for. (how's that for a dangling participle?)
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One was a four year 'live-in' relationship, so not technically a marriage in the legal sense. I've only done the 'ring on the finger' job four times - and no, no further divorces for me. I saved the best till last.
ReplyDeleteI just love your dangling participles.... ;-)
Messages?
ReplyDelete"My place" x 3
"I’d like if you stayed longer."
I think there is the message there...
But you did answer your questions. Same fear dear.
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RJA:
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you didn't leave me dangling!
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Gaye:
ReplyDeletethat threw me a little too, at times we are never direct with each other, life would be simpler.
I've always loved direct men, it takes the mind reading away and one can relax.
I've never been offended when a guy sez to me "I'd like to sleep with you."
then we all know where we stand so to speak.
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