Friday, October 25, 2019

Friday Fumbles

A little note popped up in a knitting sketch book this morning:

"Why do people long for immortality when they don't know what to do with themselves on a wet Sunday afternoon?"
If I ever get to the end of my To-Do list it will be time for me to die.

Looking through some photos, this photo touched my heart. Grandgirl and Ansa laughing together on a rock from 2006. Try not to laugh back at them imagining the shared joke.

I fear for my friend L as her texting to me has stopped completely. Another friend ran into her and said she seemed terribly confused and shouldn't be driving. So she has worsened. I do hope her sons are monitoring the situation. The last text I had from her was her questioning if she should go into a seniors' residence. I supported that, of course. She is more than ready. I wrote about her here, our last time together, in 2018, in 5 parts.

I never tire of photographing the sea in all its thousands of moods. This one I took way back when L visited me here in Newfoundland and life seemed so much simpler then.




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  1. I enjoyed your first photo of grandgirl posing like her dog, with 2 paws in front. Your 2nd photo is interesting, too.

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  2. Thanks Gigi, they were tremendous friends and behaved like siblings with each other!

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  3. Love the grandgirl and her close friend.
    And the sea.
    Immortality? Not something I want. This life is enough (and sometimes more than enough). I am sorry for your friend - and those who love her.

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    1. I'm still having difficulty with her descent as she was so sharp and ran a large corporation for many years along with tremendous volunteer work. I truly believe dementia is hereditary or possibly PTSD as she had a traumatic childhood.

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  4. Sad about your friend but it will come to us all eventually and must be embraced fearlessly. Hope she gets the care she needs.

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    1. me too Chris, I hope her sons take care of her and advise her. She was always so independent and wise.

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  5. Grand daughter and Ansa are both beautiful. I never tire of looking at the ocean. I hope someone is helping L and maybe she is already in a care place.

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    1. No River, I heard from her yesterday that she was out buying a snowblower as she is now going to to take care of her own snow maintenance in the winter. I am hoping her sons are aware of this.

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  6. It's such a nice and happy photo. It seems you have some brilliantly rugged coast line.

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    1. Gorgeous coastline here Andrew and lots of it. Every turn of the road. And a diverse quantity of birds that tourists flock to see.

      It's truly a spectacular place.

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  7. Beautiful photo.
    Good thoughts from here for your friend.

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    1. Thank you Gemma. I'm on the cusp of intruding on her sons, they have not treated her well in the past so hence my hesitation, it could harm her immeasurably in many ways.

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    2. Maybe calling the authorities for a welfare check on her.

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    3. If I could do it anonymously. Id hate to think of jeopardizing her trust in me, but it's a really good thought Gemma, thank you.

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  8. How nice to see a picture of Ansa. And like EC, immortality is not for the likes of me. I used to feel healthy enough to carry on forever, and then my body started giving up on that idea.

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    1. I, too would hate immortality, fail to see the point. We are meant to die off and fade away. The circle of life on this planet.

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  9. I am sorry to hear about L, I hope she is in a senior's residence soon. Lovely photo of Ansa and Grandgirl, Ansa reminds me of a dog we had when I was a kid. Best family dog ever.

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    1. We adored Ansa, the smartest dog I ever had, and I had many. And so playful too. She loved to herd us. Instinctual. Not good news on L I'm afraid as outlined above.

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  10. I find that now I love my memory pictures more then ever, they make me smile. Love your posting of grandgirl and Ansa

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  11. Thank you Ernestine, I like what they say about the rear view mirror: it's fine to glance at it now and and again but never stare.

    Thank you for the kind comment.

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  12. That's a good quote. As it says, if you're already bored with life, immortality for what exactly? I certainly don't want immortality, I'd like to go as soon as I'm too mentally and physically frail to properly enjoy my life.

    That's a great photo of Ansa and your grand-daughter.

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    1. Me too Nick. I'm sure L, if she had the mind, would choose to end it all now as we've talked about it. But by the time we're diagnosed we're not quite "all there" and able to sign off on Dying with Dignity and I've seen this happen before.

      Yes, it's a great photo, they were such pals.

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  13. I know you are worried for your friend.

    What a gorgeous photo at the end - so peaceful.

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    1. I am glad she was there with me when I took a few of the scene as she was so excited to capture the birds and the absolute peace apart from the waves on shore. She totally got why I moved here. But she felt she couldn't leave her executive job and her money. And what breaks my heart is that all her savings, etc. was all for nought now.

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  14. It is a wet and cloudy Sunday afternoon here as I write this and I know what to do with myself. In fact, I may not be able to finish all that I want to do this afternoon. AND, I do not want immortality.

    One lesson that I learnt today was to be careful with my humour. A friend of about my age texted me that he was going to visit some relatives and I responded with a joke. He responded that he was going to be with his brother who is seriously ill.

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    1. Yes, lessons learned every day is part of how I live. Some lessons take far too long indeed.

      And I'm usually not jokey until I ask what's going on, but then again people are awfully vague about their health or that of their families.

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  15. Gorgeous, gorgeous photo of Ansa and Grandgirl, WWW! I hope that you soon hear, somehow, that L is being properly looked after.

    Immortality could be very tiring! What would be good: just getting to know how certain worldly things work out after we've shuffled off - climate, politics, technology etc. I'm nosey that way, but not sufficiently so to want to live into 3 figures, even if my health dictated that I could (which it doesn't, of course).

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    1. The way the world is headed, I don't think it's a pretty picture unless the matriarchy takes over which seems highly unlikely but then again so many young women are so engaged. I'd like to see the day they steer the planet in a different direction. Pipe dreams. We know what doesn't work (unending capitalism and patriarchy in a finite planet) and have an idea on what would.

      Thanks for the comments on Ansa and GG - she is now a brilliant economist. I just love how these two were like siblings in their day :)

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