Wednesday, June 17, 2020

It's Grumpy Old Geezer Time!

I talk to myself. A lot. But I'm aware of it. Does that mean I'm sane. Or, maybe I never was. Or? I would talk to Ansa, the wonder dog quite a lot. Now that she's gone, it's empty air, but I don't seem to mind. I just carry on. Cheerful mutterings most of the time.

When do you know you've teetered over the edge?

I was commenting on someone else's blog yesterday. The Black Lives Matter and toppling over every offensive statue ever made movement. Will anything change? Nope. Again. Nope.

Did ERA (Equal Rites Amendment) in the retroactive USA ever get put into law? Nope. When you treat over 50% of your population as less than the rest, what hope is there for blacks? Seriously?

And WTF New Zealand? You let in these carriers after all that work?

I can see it happening here too with everyone wandering around without even minimal PPE or distancing. And we're doing so well. Just wait you Covidiots, just wait.

Today, a friend is forced out of her home because she can't afford it. She just turned 70. An actor, prominent in the arts. On Old Age Security coz no decent pension. Like me. Like all single mothers with minimal support. I'm going to try and get her into this building. She would be a wonderful addition.

Today, a dear friend writes from Ireland that her sister's husband was having an affair with their brother's daughter. She threw him out and now she takes him back three months later as he begged so much she got exhausted. Tell me what kind of wreckage that creates in a family. Does it ever recover? What would you have done with can't-keep-it-in-his-pants and what family member is now safe? "But I love him." What exactly are you loving? Is there a specific part? It can't be his fidelity. Or his decency.

George (my walking stick) and me. But with jeans and backpack.

Gawd I feel better.

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  1. So many people have the worst problems. Thank God, I don't have a philandering husband.

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    1. Yes, an awful betrayal for the entire family.

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    2. Just like drugs those doing the deed think of no one but themselves.

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    3. Or that they'll never get caught. It is the excitement and the adrenaline of the forbidden. But what a sordid dynamic to throw into a family.

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  2. glad you feel better... we're in sync today... hope you can manage to secure a place for the actor in your building... good luck... hugs

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    1. Yes, I think she'd be a great addition but who knows until you live with 'em, lol.

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  3. Love him or not, surely the trust has gone and what good is a marriage without trust? I wouldn't have taken him back no matter how much he begged. Thank goodness my ex didn't beg, it's humiliating in my opinion.
    I'd forgotten about the equal rights movement, did that really NOT pass into law? Shame on them.
    I talk to myself too, also to the cat and the television.

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    1. I'd be the same River, my friend says she "supports" her whatever that means. Does that mean her niece is now persona-non-grata? What a horrible bomb in a family.

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  4. Nope. He would be shown the door and the locks changed. Trust is an imperative in a relationship for me.
    Add me to those who talk to myself, the cat, inanimate objects. I am pretty certain that all of them listen better than many of the people around.

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  5. Me too, EC. I imagine you name your cars, like I do? And yes talk to them.

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  6. Nice to get all that angst off your chest. I can see why you feel better.

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    1. Not that I did much more with my day Chris, I thought it would help clear the cobwebs. But no.

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  7. I'm surprised I missed that story about New Zealand. Compassion! Not much compassion for the rest of the country. Distancing is breaking down here too, but it is mostly younger people.

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  8. I talk to myself too which often drives the Granddaughter and The Man crazy because they assume I'm talking to them! *LOL* Hope you get your Friend into the building, sad when after a lifetime of work anyone can't afford to just live after retirement! I didn't know New Zealand had allowed Carrier in... they'd done such a tremendous job I would have closed the borders indefinitely given the plight of the rest of the World!

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    1. Exactly Bohemian, 2 women attending a family funeral infected hundreds. Much the same happened here in March. One person flying in for a funeral infected all funeral goers.

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  9. I do hope you can maneuver your friend into your building. What a shame she wasn't sending out for help on this problem.
    As for the dick in Ireland, I hope he and she shamed away. I could participate in that.

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    1. As to the wanker, no they didn't shame him, I will ask about the niece today, have they all turned on her? And I suppose I don't want to know.
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  10. Hope your friend works out . Gets in and you still like her.:)

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    1. Exactly Gemma, she is very talented and I hope she finds a good place to live. She hates giving up her old house as is the case with many who can no longer afford maintenance and property taxes.

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  11. I had to put my own family in that story to figure out what was going on with the affair. It's quite bizarre and I cant help wondering about the power structures.
    I talk to harry like he's a baby and I yell at the computer. Its normal, I think

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    1. I did also Kylie and imagined my daughter having an affair with my sister's husband and EWWWWW. Or a brother's daughter.

      I would actually consult Ansa on various important matters. I miss her to bits.

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  12. I'll "see" your talking to yourself, animals, and flowers, and "raise" you one habit of dancing around when I've received really good news, like I did tonight (an offer of contract work in publishing with someone I previously worked with). How often does a person get to dance with delight!

    Even your gripes are interesting. And true.

    Kate

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    1. Must be something in the published stars, Kate, I just got in some editing work too with more to follow :) Congrats on yours.

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    2. Kate, congratulations! I would dance with delight, too. I've just queried a new novel for the first time, knowing very well from past experience how long it can take to find the right fit, if it ever does. WWW, congratulations on your new editing work. My writing friend in Chicago is finding slim pickings these days, and the development houses hold up payment as long as possible, too, while setting quick deadlines.

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    3. Linda - I am in awe, you got a novel actually finished? I am still working on my new one, Nudging close to 50,000 words now, needs a hell of a lot of polishing though. But so good to be back in the saddle.

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  13. Today I too feel old and grumpy. All the forced optimism in the (social) media, all those stupid people, and all those uncaring people you meet while shopping - all this makes me age a year every day, at least in grumpiness. Urgh, although I've promised myself not to let grumpiness rampant on my blog, I think the coming Monday's poetry challenge will indeed be of the grumpy+ variety.

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    1. Nothing wrong with grumpy Charlotte, we need to vent now and again and the same old shyte day after day builds up until I am cranky central.
      Plus because I have a Covid site people think I'm an expert on Covid world wide. LOL. Go away. Google yourselves. There. Feel better.

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  14. Dear Wisewebwoman and Friends, sad reality is, women had to go for feminism, back in the day, for one reason: peewee wouldn't get off his butt and provide. Too many (cough, cough) men out there expect patriarchy's perks, but want no parts of patriarchy's responsibilities - it's almost laughable when (red pIll) peewees blame feminists for their twoubles.

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    1. Nailed Sue. Thank you. Daycare should be provided along with pensions. I wish to hell women would strike world wide. Until changes were made.

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  15. I have a friend who talks to herself all the time, whether anyone else is there or not. If you point it out to her she just laughs. She's also deaf but certainly not cuckoo. I hope for the best for your actor friend, life is not fair.

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  16. I imagine, Annie, that some are unaware of talking to themselves. I am glad I am aware of it, or then again, am I. I encourage myself a lot with my physical disability, as "you can do it". Some days are quite challenging but I don't forget to applaud myself either.

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  17. This kind of happened to me 40 years ago....not with a family member but still. Said he wanted to "separate" and "remain friends"! I filed for divorce the next day...sent my wedding ring to him through the mail...and have seen him only once when he showed up at my sister-in-law funeral (10 years later) thinking we should talk. I didn't even recognize him...let alone want to talk! good gosh. I talk to myself a lot and think as long as I know that I am doing it I am ok...lol


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  18. Sorry to hear that Ain't. It must have been so hard at the time. I've been betrayed by a really close friend which I wrote about here way back and its one of the most brutal betrayals on so many levels.

    Good for you for refusing to engage. I've done the same with my former bestie though she's written many times.

    Here's a link to it all, if you're so inclined. https://wisewebwoman.blogspot.com/2013/03/follow-up-to-betrayal-story.html

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  19. Venting will always make you feel better. Women are unfathomable like the story you have given here. I know of a similar case not too far away from where I live and it is a huge scandal now that the ah has been taken back by the wife.

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  20. I think it could be financial need, Ramana, perhaps, or social consequences as in the fact so many women, once divorced, are excluded from gatherings, perceived as some sort of threat by couples. I've observed it myself. Horrible. I see things changing with the young ones but not in the over fifties.

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  21. I also talk to myself a lot. A trait I caught from my father.

    It's tragic that someone can be forced out of their home at the age of 70. What kind of society stands by and lets that happen? Not a compassionate, civilised one.

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