Sunday, January 24, 2021

Day 16

 All is well.

Though I feel I should be doing more.

Which is always the way I feel, and I need to embrace "enough" every day.

It's enough for now to be self-caring with food and staying in the moment and knowing at my core that over extending myself is not on. Which includes energy thrown at others. Until I find my feet I just need to be vigilant and more aware.

I have often wondered why many of us choose to wear such uncomfortable clothes. Like made of nylon and polyester and push up bras with wires and really tight sweaty underwear and being told to avoid pantilines as if they're a crime against humanity. And high heels, when you sit back and look at that torture device. I mean men don't teeter around on them do they? They are dangerous. I've seen the long term effects on women's feet which are horrific but still many women still  encase themselves in spanx holding in stomachs and hardly breathing while tottering around on stilettoes. I've often thought it would be great to have a denim wedding, for instance. Everybody in their most comfortable jeans and sweats. I suppose a trillion dollar industry would collapse overnight.



I was reading about old age being a corridor with all these doors leading to different activities/places/events in our lives and we wind up with most of the doors closed forever. Only a few left. I found it quite profound. 


21 comments:

  1. Profound - and frightening. I hope to open a few doors as I age. And one of those doors is learning to care much less what 'they' think.

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    1. That's a good one, EC. And also not giving another f***, we have planted far too many, the crop is harvested.

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    2. How true that is. And it wasn't a crop which brought me any joy.

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  2. I agree about the high heels and spanx, also the visible panty lines, who the heck really cares. at least it shows a woman is wearing undies and not going commando which might mean having to wash things twice (skid marks anyone?) after you've sweated in your trousers or jeans

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    1. I find this obsessive focus on women's "fashions" more appalling as I age. Not to say I didn't buy into it when I was younger.Being told how to look, etc. Making believe it was empowering, ha!

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  3. Dear Wisewebwoman and Friends, women's clothing and shoes are just awful - and the fake fabric doesn't go well with winter.

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    1. I love the natural fabrics Sue. Loose garments are wonderful. So comfy. And good quality comfy shoes.

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  4. I feel like I have all these closed doors before me at paths I may want to travel, but my heart knows I have closed them myself.

    We aren't seeing high heels in numbers we used to but I always take a second look when I see them, especially if she or he is not teetering on them. They have to be worn with grace of style.

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    1. I think it impossible to wear them with any kind of safety. The spine is thrown out of alignment and one is basically walking on one's tip toes which is disastrous for the skeleton. You haven't seen the damage I've seen? And to think bound Chinese women's feet were "sexy".

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  5. I have totally given up uncomfortable clothes and have no regrets. I am considered to be an oddball but, I am comfortable!

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    1. Your clothes look so comfortable Ramana. If I lived there I would be attired similarly.

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  6. I came across a Tweet praising our previous First Lady, singing paeans to her (or is that "of" her?). One of the reasons given: she wears heels so well. Please, when I'm gone from a place or from this life, let someone say something more consequential of me than that I wore heels well.

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    1. Can you imagine, which reminds me of a marvellous obit published in Nova Scotia yesterday, I'll copy and put it on today's blog.

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  7. Cotton it is!. That was the fabric we wove and the clothes we made. Cool in the summer, warm in the winter.

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    1. It's so perfect, isn't it Joanne. My giftees love your teatowels!

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  8. It's summer here and my kids are camping and swimming at every possible opportunity. I SO resent having that door closed way too early. I deal with other things but not that.
    I refuse to wear synthetic fabrics these days, polyester might be easy to care for and look nice but I'm more comfortable in my rumpled linen. I also wear a lot of bamboo but it tends to be hot.
    I wish I could wear pretty clothes and pretty shoes but I style my wardrobe aruond my orthopaedic shoes and in some ways it's very free-ing.

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    1. Free-ing is the word alright, Kylie. We should embrace it more as we age.
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  9. When my youngest son was a preschooler at daycare they had a dress up box that among other things included high heels and fancy grownup dresses. The biggest users? Boys. The daycare director opined that these clothes were forbidden to boys and this was the only “safe” place for them to wear such things. That’s why men don’t wear them. People love costumes, women are “allowed” to wear certain costumes and men are not.

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  10. Traditional female clothing like high heels, shapewear, push-up bras, pencil skirts and all the rest is demeaning and uncomfortable. How telling that men don't wear such things, they would never submit to such impractical and exasperating garments.

    What a shame that even Kamala Harris feels obliged to totter about in high heels.

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